Which is more rude(phone)

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I was wondering which do you guys think is more rude. Screening someones calls or texts or overcalling/overtexting a person. Technically both is rude. I just wanted some opinions.

Overcalling. I don't think that screening is rude. I make no secret of the fact that I check to see who is calling before I answer my phone. If a number is not in my phone's address book and I don't recognize the number, I don't answer it. What's rude about wanting to know who's calling before you answer the phone? It doesn't make sense to answer if you have no idea who you're going to be talking to.

When I meant screening someones calls I meant seeing whos calling and purposely not responding because of whos calling.

When I meant screening someones calls I meant seeing whos calling and purposely not responding because of whos calling.

I don't think screening calls is rude, but regard it as choice.
I actually have to pay £1(it might actually have gone up) a month to get the caller phone number come up on my landline.

Please define what you mean by "overcalling."

Screening calls isn't rude. It's like, I have a life, I don't have to be at anyone's beck and call.

Now, there may be specifically instances where not answering the phone because of who's calling is rude. But that relates to the specifics of the situation. It's not rude as a general thing.

Calling someone a bunch of times, or sending a bunch of texts (other than in a back and forth exchange) does strike me as inappropriate and not friendly.

Overcalling is absolutely ruder. I need my personal space. Of course, I may be biased, since I do screen,and I don't always pick up. Sometimes, I just don't like I can deal with having a conversation with a given person at a given moment, and I do have people in my life who are high maintenance, and can be exhausting to talk to. Sometimes, I just don't have the social energy to deal with people. I figure that if the call is important, that's what voicemail is for. One can always leave a message, and when I'm ready, I can reply by either calling back, texting, or e-mailing. The latter two are often the most appealing options, as communicating through text is generally significantly less stressful than an actual conversation.

The extrovert here sayeth that ignoring calls from a certain person is rude. If I feel like somebody isn't picking up on purpose, and they haven't told me why they're ignoring my calls all of a sudden, I might call repeatedly. I just can't settle like that without getting a logical explanation. I'll start getting all anxious because the situation wouldn't have turned out the way I've expected it to.

Is this question actually "If one person is calling and calling and calling and someone else is not picking up the calls from the person who calls multiple times a day, who is being ruder?" Or is it as as separate incidents?

As someone who overcalls and gets upset when people screen my calls I can say the overcalling is ruder but that being screened is more hurtful. You get screened less if you call less of course...

Can someone please explain what is meant by "overcalling"?

I don't know if screening is rude, I guess it would depend on the circumstances. If you're just not picking up calls from unknown numbers, that's fair enough. But if you're deliberately ignoring someone's calls for whatever reason, I guess that is rude (though sometimes justified. Again, depends on the circumstances).

Overcalling is something I would happily do if I didn't care about upsetting my friends.

When I like someone, I really like them. I tend to fixate on exceptional people. At this moment in time, I have a friend who is willing to explain many things to me. I really like her, and am also feeling very lonely. Given the choice of doing anything I liked, I'd like to turn to her to ask her about every other thing, to discuss them with her, because she has a wonderful brain and is fun to be with.

But...
she has her own life. She has things to do, needs time to rest, and can only spare a small amount of time for me, and calls me when she can. It's kind of her to do so.
So, if things get really, really bad, I call her. But because I'm aware that doing this eats away at her time, I leave it until I can't stand it any more before I do so. If she doesn't answer, then I leave a message, and don't call again. This is my way of trying to respect her space. Overcalling would be me calling over and over again, even if she doesn't answer.