Anyone you know who can make friends but...

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...you are mystified because they seem really shy and they don't talk a lot?

My cousin is really quiet when he is with my family and he also doesn't talk much to people at church. However, he is somehow able to make friends at University. I just can't picture how he does it. He's one of those people who rarely starts a conversation and he will not talk to you if you don't start talking to him.

I have a neighbor who is very quiet and shy but has very close friendships and is frequently having long conversations on the phone. She may have trouble initiating but she has no trouble interacting after. My big issue with people I've come to realize is simply fatigue. People wear me out.

Well, actually, my theory is that he knows what friendships are "important". Here's what I mean...

-You don't need to talk much with family/relatives to keep them "close" to you. They are close to you for the very reason that they are your family/relatives.

-There's less point of talking to people in church since you only see them once a week.

-School and university friends are much more important because you hang out with them 5 days a week. or more.