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dwoolridge
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02 Jan 2010, 6:44 pm

Hey I dont really have any freinds with AS/autism and i really need someone to talk to so bad.

I could tell some of my NT people about it and i need some advice how should i tell them so they could understand me.



02 Jan 2010, 7:12 pm

Hi, if you want to talk, send me a PM



gassy
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02 Jan 2010, 7:13 pm

Yeh sure, i cant promise i'll be able to help in any way (and may make things worse) but i'll try my best in any way i can, and i'm sure the vast majority of people on this website whether they are NT, or have autism will try and do the same.

I'm not entirely sure what the problem you have is,so any solution is difficult for me to identify. However if you are going to tell somebody else about it "in real life"(ie not on a website but face to face), i would tell someone who you can trust whether its a good friend, parent, sibling, mentor, psychologist etc.

However even though i might be appearing to contradict myself here, but i personally prefer to solve problems i face by myself, but that could just be because i've rarely have had a really big enough problem where i felt i've needed to involve anybody else



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02 Jan 2010, 7:17 pm

There's loads of people on here to talk to. You shouldn't have too much trouble. :)



dwoolridge
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02 Jan 2010, 7:27 pm

I do have problems talking to people here

Also My problem is should i tell my freinds about it or keep it as a secret

my family knows about it allready



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02 Jan 2010, 10:06 pm

i too didn't know if i should tell my friends. i did and they haven't let me down. they don't make a big deal out of it, which is nice. i think it comes down to how much you trust them. if you want to talk, you can pm me.



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02 Jan 2010, 10:24 pm

I'd happily be your friend :) feel free to pm or add me on any instant messenger :) i'd accept the request and happily talk to you :) i'm already talking to some members on WP and they are very interesting people and nice that i have ever spoken to.

superboyian :)


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02 Jan 2010, 10:38 pm

If you want to add me as a friend on IM, feel free.


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03 Jan 2010, 8:14 am

I'm always up for new friends!



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03 Jan 2010, 11:00 am

I have a couple ideas why you should, and should not...and some other comments...

Cons:
1) Friends often misunderstand what having AS truly is.
2) Friends will sometimes end up using AS as a label for you instead of seeing you as a person.
3) Friends might annoy you by being overly sympathetic and/or being condescending either accidentally or on purpose in attempts to accomidate what they now "know" about you.

Pros:
1) Friends might be more understanding in future situations.
2) Friends might be able to support you more.

I think before you do anything, you should consider why you want to tell them. Are you using it as a cop out? Do you want them to understand? Do you want more attention from them? Do you need them to be more considerate?



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03 Jan 2010, 11:16 pm

sure I see u have a facebook, send me a pm if u want mine.



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04 Jan 2010, 2:39 am

Well, you know you always got me.



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04 Jan 2010, 2:48 am

I'm always up for making new friends, both here and elsewhere. In other words, "yes." :)



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05 Jan 2010, 5:40 am

Howdy,

You won't have any trouble making friends here.

If you want to add me as a friend on IM or PM me, I'm all for it.


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05 Jan 2010, 6:00 am

I'm up for PM too.
There's a whole busload of people here to talk to and make friends with. :)


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