Is my friend too shy to meet up with me?

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I have a friend whom I have known for 4 years, I know that she is extremely shy, my friends in college said the same. I would like to be friends with her and meet up with her.

I first emailed her in early October when I asked if she'd like to meet me for lunch, she said she would meet me when she had the time, but the impression I got is she is too shy to meet up thus far e.g. she unexpectedly emailed me 2 months after I first invited her to lunch, she apologised for not meeting me, said she had been very busy but she would meet me in the new year. This means she remembered my October email and was thinking about meeting up, but perhaps she felt too shy to meet me(?). I wished her a happy Christmas etc. I later invited her to a science exhibition that is on later this week, I sent that email 2 weeks ago, but I got nothing back so far.

Does it sound like she is too shy to meet up? How does one get an extremely shy friend to meet up? What are the right things to say? Should I give up.

It may be shyness. Certainly I feel extremely shy about meeting people, especially the first time. But if she's really your friend, especially for so long, she needs to be open and honest about it. And just because you are too shy to meet up doesn't equate to being too shy to talk about the reasons why you aren't doing so and aren't talking about it. She may feel bad about not doing so or may think it's too soon, but shutting you out is not the answer and you need to ask her to be open about what's going on. I'm very shy, but this sounds like something more than that.

Forget about her and move on. Do not let it eat you up inside. Maybe she does not want to meet up with you.