My trick for if your not sure about sarcams

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Hello . I am getting to the point were not all sarcasitc remarks "go over my head" but some times I am still unsure if someone is being sarcastic or not. So I have a simple tactic which I am going to start using that I would like to share with the community. If someone makes a sarcastic remark. Then I will just say "Really?" I hope that it works for me but if it does not it may work for you.

my response is I treat alot of stuff that is said as sarcasm (well, I use vocal clues instead of body language but it does work.)

Me giving out the sarcasm on the other hand, I tend to get called an a**hole, since *it doesnt sound like im being sarcastic, that im just being an ass" Whatever. Of course I do tend to overdo it sometimes, so your mileage may vary

The thing is, just alway try to maintain your composure when dealing with what might possibly be called sarcasm.

Part of dealing with it is in overall confidence, I think. For me, figuring out if someone is joking about something can be really stressful, but a large part of that is because I'm so insecure in myself that I can feel stupid easily, and it will be upsetting if I'm wrong. Kris has "default" responses.. unless it's totally obvious that someone is joking about something, he'll assume that they're not, and figure that it's the other person's responsibility to be clear about what they mean, so he just doesn't worry about it. But he's also quite secure in the knowledge that he's not great socially, but that it doesn't really matter because his intelligence lies elsewhere. For me, it's upsetting largely because I'll feel stupid if I'm wrong. He doesn't feel stupid because he knows that he's smart, so it doesn't matter. (Also, he really doesn't have a temper, so he won't get totally pissed off if he misinterprets something, which also helps.)

@DemonAbyss10 I try to use vocal clues as well but sometimes I misread them

@Maggiedoll: I hoep your confidence grows

Usaully when someone is being sarcastic, there is a certain tone to their voice that they get. It can be best described as a smart ass tone...kinda cocky and like something that stepped out of a james dean movie but not quite that extreeme. Pay attention to their tone of voice and you might start to notice it. Also if it sounds like BS or otherwise unlikely, assume that it is unless proven otherwise. In high school, there were these guys that would say stuff like there is more than one way to get pregnant...Out of curoisity, I said How is that? He said by a BJ, I found that hard to believe, but my thinking was that maybe science has proven something...so I said, Really? And of course then I was the object of ridicule. So stuff like that...Just ignore.

okay i will keep that in mind