Trying so hard to be friends, yet it won't work.

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Anyone have this problem?

There are certain people I try really hard to befriend, but it never seems to work, and always leaves me downhearted. I blew a chance with someone because I probably came across as boring because I didn't know what to talk about really.

I don't know what to do.

I'm going to be eaten to death by this obsession.

hale_bopp,

Some people( alot of people with AS really) just don;t always clique with other people. If something's not working, then you can't force it. After all you can't fit sqaure pegs in round holes. You'll eventtually find someone you'll clique with. it'll kind of happen when you least expect it. In the meantime you can learn to become content with your solitude. After all you don't need other people to validate your life.

Last edited by jman on 01 Apr 2006, 11:39 am, edited 1 time in total.

I do, and I have come to realize that it's just other people.

I'll be your friend, just only online though. That's not just becuase of the pretty lady avatar either.

I'll second that SC. Hale_Bopp you can consider me your friend since I'm a really good friend to Fiz. Thank care of your self. I hope things go well for you. Don't worry to much about it you'll be able to make friends. Maybe you're trying the wrong gender to befriend. I don't make much friends with my gender but I make lots of girls to be my friends. See ya.

Yes I have this problem and have found the harder you try to befriends with someone the more likely they are to be pushed way or take advantageof the sitution better to let them go. you'll find somebody interested in someting you are then you'll have something to talk about

I have this problem too, either that or I really want to be friends with someone but I'm too scared to approach them for fear of rejection by them.

Although I actually think you're cool, hale_bopp, not boring. You also say what you mean with no BS which I do respect in a person. I'm the same as you in that I never really know what to talk about either, I find it very difficult to start a conversation sometimes I really do. The way I look at it is if people fob you off without really knowing you that well or make assumptions of you, then even though its upsetting or annoying in the first instance, theyre not worth it really, easier said than done I know.

I agree with you Fiz. Assuming never helped anyone.

Yeah...see my topic, "Everyone's so friggin' busy"....

clique? Or click? I am very happy with my own comapny, but this is more an obsession that's been eating me alive for a whole year. This woman and I do not click and there is nothing I can do about it, and it absolutley devistates me.



I've always had a problem with male friends beucase I can't stop thinking that they only think dirty thoughts and all they want is sex.



In real life in a bit different. I am not blunt to people, but I say some really really stupid and random things at stupid times, it just comes out and I can't stop it. SOmetimes things come out and I think that they shouldn't have. But I just got the impression the woman is not interested in being friends with me.. I don't know if I can change that I just need to learn how to cope with it

Even some some NTs dont click with each other. It might not be an AS thing at all.

I don't think it's related to AS.

It possibly is a factor, but we probably don't click as people. That isn't really what this thread is about. I know this.

Fiz what the problem? you are beautiful remember that.

Tell me something Florescent what are you trying to pull? Her beauty is mine! LOL.

Are you too cocky or is she your girlfriend? she never told me anything. She should have you to tell me if she is too busy. I can;t SEE WHY you people DON'T consider others fealings. I can and I have as. I am sorry I am having a tuff time elsewhere. There is always issues remember that tiger fire.

If you're going to argue about that do it in private.