Talking too harsh?

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I work at a part time job, and one co-worker and I call each other friends. However, she was not having a good day and was not feeling good. Anyway, I was trying to talk to her about the Obama's speech and how I felt about it. I even tried to imitate him, and she got mad and said, "Quit talking like that." I first of all said sorry about that and then told her that she didn't have to be such a drama queen because I imitate things. In fact, I do that to be more descriptive of the whole situation. As a result, I felt like she shut down about it and ignored me for the rest of the morning while at work.

I even tried to tell her to have a good day, and she angrily went, "Mmmm hmmm?"

Do you think I was

It depends. Is she black? She might have thought you were acting rascist. You obviously did something to offend her somehow. It's not like you were insulting him. How did you imitate him? She may have thought that you were mocking him in a comedic way. That's why most people imitate. Harsh has probably nothing to do with it unless you were in some way mocking him.

I like Obama, I like Bill Clinton, I don't like George Bush, but as a person he's a pretty cool guy, just not his politics in my opinion. And guess what, I imitate all of those guys. My favorite is Obama, because he talks funny. Oh yea, I'm black too...at that I'm even a black male. I don't know why this person got offended.
I don't know if this person was black or not, but this person reacted stupidly.
Someone once told me that some people don't like imitations because it looks like you're making fun of the person. I do it to be more descriptive, and I can't help it. I often do it, and people tell me to talk normal so I can get my point across.
But I know how you feel..you aren't going to stop thinking about this. You are embarrassed and it won't go away, nothing you do can get this off your mind because you wanna conclude this first. Well I had an embarrassing moment today too and I'm still thinking about it. Just have comfort knowing you're not alone.

Maybe this person doesn't like politics or doesnt like to talk about them. I dont know what to say. Seems that she was acting really flaky. Next time you see him, dont say anything to her unless he talks to you. Thats how I deal with those people.

On the emotional side, I cant tell you how to deal with this emotionally, because how you feel is how you feel and thats never gonna change.

She is a nice person and I enjoy talking to her but it just seems that I am not very high on her list and she never seems to want to do anything when I invite her to things. She seems more interested in clinging to her husband and always wanting to do everything with him. No, she also was not black either, it's just at she is one of those people that hates it when I imitate people when they have been snotty or act like drama queens, which helps me be more descriptive.


I won't do the imitation anymore but I can't meet her expectations all the time and I can't get upset just because she chose to act like a drama queen about things like that. I am always going to be me whether she will like it or not and that includes imitating things.

She then pouted about the whole, "Drama Queen," thing after wards. However, I just let it roll off my back and had a nice day at work. It was when she did the "Mmm...hmmm?" that it bothered me.

I'm not high on anyone's friends list. I have been before, but they always move away to different places, so i have to start all over. and for the past couple years I have been to myself. And I do understand what u mean with the "mmm hm" thing....it makes u just wanna grab her head and bash it doesnt it.

A little bit Mjackson. However, I can't try to let her control my emotions because it gets my upset and it will make me look bad.

My husband and I had to work out an agreement on this. He also imitates occasionally. When we first dated, he would imitate my daughter sometimes (who was about 6, and sometimes a little back-talky). But there is a blankness to how he does it - it can sometimes appear cruel to me and without the humor that softens satire. I do understand the way he intended it was NOT the way it showed up outside, but the outside is what we see. He doesn't do it now, at least not with the children.

I imitate at times which upsets some people. My little sister says stuff and we say "you're rude" NO I WASN'T (it then turns into an argument with the 10yr. old crying and upset)