Social problems

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When discussing Asperger's with people and they tell me that everybody has some sort of difficulty socialising, are they dismissing the problems that people with AS face or are they trying to be nice about it and make me feel better?

Either they don't really understand or they are trying to make you feel better. True everyone does do this or that so I don't see it as a lie.

I think that everybody has their own share of social problems.

Sure, everyone has their share of social problems, but we're not talking about existence here - we're talking about magnitude. I'm going to go with that they simply don't understand.

It's like if you were to ask someone to estimate quickly in their head how long a billion seconds is. Odds are, we'd get answers that are well off the mark in both directions.

It irked me to a great extent in high school when people - girls, most especially, would complain to friends/teachers/whoever about feeling out of place, awkward, or like losers. And then, you'd see these same people the next day around campus, with a group of Beautiful People - cute guys, attractive girls, you know the type - smiling; joking; laughing.

Simply put, if that's their idea of being lost, alone, out of place - then they don't know what it's like to be out of place. It's a logical contradiction to be laughing like that with a bunch of normal, happy people. Simply put, they wouldn't know what it's like to be unable to communicate with people, or to feel like you're on the other side of an invisible barricade - or whatever your Aspergers experience with social interaction is best described as.

Thanks for this. I know exactly what you mean. My friend from school often tells me how lonely she feels and out of place she feels. I say to her she has some very good friends and she replies that they are not close friends. Then, the next day, she is going out with lots of people in town clubbing.

I feel like I permanently have something funny looking on my face that makes people fail to take me seriously.

The person who said this also said to me that he thought I could communicate with people. But, I know that I can. The point is, it's difficult, stressful and tiring. Saying the wrong thing, tripping up all the time, it wears me down. I feel that that is not the same as having awkward moments or embarrassing moments etc, which I believe are the things they are referring to that everybody has.