Question about friendship

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One of my friends recently told me how connected they feel to me/special our friendship is to her. While I like all of my friends, and enjoy our mutual interests, I do not feel any further connection to any of them. I was surprised to hear what my friend had to say. Is this usual for people with AS or maybe a PTSD thing?

First of all, does your friend have AS or is on the autism spectrum?

I have noticed this personally with certain friendships or attempted friendships. I am not sure whether there is something there or, it is just an aspect of an obsession with a person.

I first picked up on this a couple of years ago. I had somewhat of a reunion with a casual friend/acquaintance from my childhood. Sadly, we reconnected under conditions in where he needed some help (his home and community were devistated by a flood). I never picked up on this growing up, but I noticed that he had some AS type symptoms, and in theory we had some common interests. I felt kind of a bond with him, but again, I am not sure if there was something there, or it was the fact that I was a little obsessed with him. He did take somewhat of an interest in me for awhile, but after about 6-8 months, things broke off and we have only spoken briefly since. Ever since this episode, I have noticed a little bit of a bond with others from my past and present as well.

I don't think she has AS, possibly ADHD which some consider on the spectrum. I do think her husband was AS and I think that familiarity is how we were able to be friends in the first place.

Its strange to me. When I was a teenager I was able to form relationships where I felt connected, so I remember what it feels like, but in the last 15+ years I haven't felt that way again.