How in the world?

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A few nights ago, I was at a bar. I frequent this place a lot the last year or so, and many people there know of me. Mostly from the trivia night, so I have a reputation of being fairly bright but quiet.

There is one guy there, who I talk to somewhat... I go over to him and his table, where a few other people are sitting also. The guy turns me to introduce me to someone, and says: "he is a great guy here. Very intelligent. Has an odd sense of humor, pretty funny though. Really nice guy. I suspect he has Asperger's, it's kinda like autism but a little socialable."

And I'm just looking at him like, how in the hell did you figure that out?

I been at this place for a year now, and yet many times I go here I worry of what these people think of me. Am I accepted or not? How much of a friend am I really? If anyone asks, I tend to blame having social anxiety and depression. I never said I have Asperger's, mainly in fear of rejection.


I presume this guy accepts me for what I have, and thinks I'm a good person. But if I'm this noticeable to people, who else does? If any...


*gah* I hate overthinking...

Most people probably wouldn't know anything that specific on their own, so as far as the bar goes, it's largely depended on what that person has told others.

He's lucky you do have aspergers and don't mind others being told about it... it's a bit rude otherwise.

I'm under the assumption he might know someone else who has it, and therefore sees a bit of someone else in me. But I have no way to prove if that is right or wrong, as of what I know now.


I don't necessarily mind if people do know, I just don't want people to judge me in a negative way simply for having it. That's my big thing. Not like it was anything I could help, so why treat me any different than a NT?

My take is that he likes and accepts you, and wants others to. He's putting your quirks in a context for them, to help them understand and accept you.

If understanding that your quirks are due to neurology and not assholery, then I don't see how being treated differently is a bad thing in this particular case.

I mean, it looks like AS is becoming trendy, for heavens sake. At least the stereotype is that we're intelligent. Which beats the hell out of the stereotype for blonds... which I also am, and pity the poor fool who tells dumb blond jokes to a blond Aspie...

My past is littered with the carnage of idiots...
ooo, sorry. Guess I just lack sufficient empathy...

Sounds like he thinks well of you and wants his friends to think the same. He is pointing out your quirks up front so that they will know there is something different and make an effort to accept you.

From an American perspective...

It seems to me that AS is a very well known thing in the UK.

Is there a higher rate of AS in the UK vs. the US?

I don't know about over there. I know here in the States it's like 1 in 160, or something like that.

I think the CDC is now saying something like 1 in a 100 here in the states.

It probably has more to do with the Uk's national health care system...