"Why does everybody hate you?"

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So I'm one of those people who everybody hates or loves. Someone has an opinion of me no matter where I go (even if they've never met me before) and it's usually one extreme or the other. What bothers me is when people who love me ask me "why does everybody you?" How can I get over being hurt by this question and/or feeling the need to respond with an intellectual tirade? Should I correct them and say "actually everybody doesn't hate me" or just walk away from them entirely? Change the subject? Maybe just laugh and shrug it off?

Maybe you could respond with "I don't know and I don't want to know, people can think what they want".

That's a good one. How about "maybe you should get a new everyone." Or is that too defensive? Is there a nicer way of saying that?

Since I don't know you, how can I think one way or another of you?

I'm not asking what people here think of me. Just how to respond to a question like this.

I like you. Your avatar is pretty too.

But to answer your question, you can either be subtle about it or be upfront. If you want to be subtle, you can say 'why does everyone hate YOU?'

If you can be upfront, you can say 'You tell me?'

It's not a big deal.

I can't believe how easy that was. Perfect responses. Thanks.

I am having a little bit of a problem diagnosing this problem!


Well, I've meet people and their eyes have lit up with fire, and I know that it is because they perceived me as a weakling and they were free to bash me at any time.
I removed myself from their company.


I would ask "If you love me, why does other peoples opinion of me, cause you to doubt OUR relationship?"



In my day, when I was going through the things you are going through,
people were'nt even polite enough to ask "Why does everyone hate you?"
There was a wall of social contempt.
A couple of people said "That guys stupid!"
"He's a dickhead"
"Loser"
"s**t for brains"

And the herd closed ranks and shut me out

You are really lucky, TheHaywire, you have a diagnosis,
and from this you know you have a different perspective.
From this, you have Wrong Planet and our perspectives ad infinitum

You say you have people that say they love you, and I would say, return it.
Everything else is beneath your consideration.

I'd tell them that I don't care what others thought about me.

Sometimes as aspies we get so nervous that we can't think of responses, it's not your fault TheHaywire. It happens to me to. The thing I do is think of the first thing that comes to my head, most of the time it sounds stupid, but the person gets the point.

People used to ask me if I was gay, and I didnt say anything. and all I wanted to do was cuss them out. One day this guy kept asking me and I cussed him out. I went home and told everyone and everyone said ..why didnt you say "are you gay? is that why you're asking the question?"...or someother witty answer. I know that the reason I dont use wit is because my brain doesnt function to use wit right off the bat. So I cuss them out. I tell them how I feel, or I usually the say Im gonna beat your....and they leave me alone.

I was doing a Michael Jackson performance in February for the school talent show, and a guy who has been bullying me for a while said "You know Michael Jackson didnt have chest hair". My initial reaction was "Shut the F up B, before I kick your A you pus(%" and he looked scared and left me alone. I saw the guy at McDonalds two weeks ago and he started a conversation with me and apologized. My moms bf asked why didnt I say "Yeah, so you are smart, you noticed I'm not Michael Jackson", but i didnt wanna use wit, because that wouldve led to him having a come back and I wouldve gotten mad and had a meltdown and ruined my whole show.

just do what works for you. I know there's something going on in your head when people ask that, even if it's a meltdown just scream. If you scream loud enuff people will stop asking. and who cares if they think you're crazy, they're already ignorant for asking the question. or just simply say "shut up". use simple comebacks, dont try to think of witty things because its probably not in your nature im assuming you are aspie. just do what works for you, and that is the firt thing that comes to your head.

Some people just hate others out of immaturity. Its their loss if they don't take the time to get to know you before they judge you. If its a large community that doesn't like you, leave it or avoid it as much as you can. Look for friends some place else.