I can't rid of someone and I need help

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Today, I got a text message from someone asking for Jen. Now, I have DATED someone named Jen, so I wrote back saying, "Jen who?" He then gave me this person's last name, so I told him I didn't know who she was. I then was asked who I was, so I told him my name. Then, I told him I wasn't black (not that I have anything against black people ). Then he texted me "I know this is you steph." Well, I'm not a stephanie.

After that, he then called me! I told him who I was and told him that he has the wrong number. Finally, he called me a SECOND time and told me to "listen" to him, so I did. He asked me where I was from, etc. etc. (I lied about thaT) and then he asked me how long I had my phone number for. I told him 5 years. He told me "LIAR!" and then proceeded to ask me whether I liked any sports, at which point I told him that I had to go. He said, "Okay, baby."

Basically, I want him to stop calling me and I'm afraid that he will start calling me at work and somesuch, though I don't really have any evidence to back this up.

Help...please?

Do you have caller ID? I guess you do. I would simply not answer the phone. It sounds like he's getting his jollies by bothering you.

I apparently look like a lot of people--I've actually had men step into my office and start talking to me as if they knew me.

Tell him to get lost. Also, your cell phone provider probably has some kind of call blocking feature.

Creep.

I know that you already know this, but I am going to say it anyway...

Never give anyone information about yourself over the phone. He called and got a wrong number. The discussion was over when you told him that the Jen in question was a different person. After that, it would have been "Sorry, you have the wrong number, Goodbye" and that would have been that.

As for now....

If this is a cell phone - have his number blocked. If he calls from a different number and you answer and identify him say this and only this, "Your calls are unwelcome. Stop calling. Goodbye" and hang up. No discussion, no argument. Do this anytime he calls. If he continues, say this and only this, "Your calls are unwelcome. I have asked you to stop calling. I am forwarding my phone logs and all incidents of you calling me to the police" and then do exactly that. At this point, the behaviour becomes harassment.

If anyone has anything to add, or if I missed anything - please chime in.

The important part is to NOT ENGAGE IN DISCUSSION OR ARGUMENT. "Don't call me. Goodbye" and hang up

I don't know if this works on cell phones, but it should on any U.S. land line:

- Hang up on the harassing caller without saying anything further.

- Pick up the receiver and dial *57 and follow instructions.

- Call your phone company and inform them that you've just received a harassing call and have invoked the *57 feature.

- Do the *57 thing every time you get another call from that same caller.

They will investigate.

How did he get your number? It sounds like you might want to have a discussion with Jen about this.

Sounds like a prank phone call, plain and simple. Probably dialed your number randomly.

I agree with blocking his number. If he calls don't answer - OR, you could have a man answer for you. Any man that might come off as protective of you might do the trick.

I'm having a hard time getting rid of someone, myself.