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24 Dec 2011, 1:55 pm

Clear and helpful social skills advice here.

http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/eti ... index.html


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24 Dec 2011, 1:57 pm

Anything to do with sex for the vast majority of the time, especially around women. That's a good start. Next!



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24 Dec 2011, 1:57 pm

"I HATE YOU I HATE YOU. WHY WON'T YOU JUST DIE?"

NTs hate this.



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24 Dec 2011, 1:59 pm

fraac wrote:
"I HATE YOU I HATE YOU. WHY WON'T YOU JUST DIE?"

NTs hate this.


I don't like it much either.


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24 Dec 2011, 1:59 pm

fraac wrote:
"I HATE YOU I HATE YOU. WHY WON'T YOU JUST DIE?"

NTs hate this.


Don't you mean that people in general hate this? ;)



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24 Dec 2011, 2:47 pm

Huh. Fascinating.



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24 Dec 2011, 2:47 pm

meh....I don't like that link so far, what basically never ever even indicate that the other person does not look absolutely stunning. I think I would feel like the other person was being fake if they where always that careful never to make a comment that indicates I'm not looking my best.


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24 Dec 2011, 6:55 pm

Tequila wrote:
Anything to do with sex for the vast majority of the time, especially around women. That's a good start. Next!


Probably a good idea if you don't know the person you're having the conversation with very well. But some women like a little innuendo, double entendre, or plain old dirty joke as much as the next guy :wink: Don't be too uptight. Life's too short.


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24 Dec 2011, 9:28 pm

ha i get 'you look tired' from people all the time. i do, but still



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25 Dec 2011, 1:02 am

Basically, a general theme here is to avoid negativity. Try to spin what you have to say in a positive agreeable way.



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26 Dec 2011, 4:28 am

Most NTs can get away with gossip, but for us, when in doubt, never gossip.
Why?
1. The NT might think, "If ________ dares to gossip about A, then he or she might dare to gossip about me too."
2. The NT might betray you.
3. You might unknowingly offend the NT because the person you have been gossiping about turns out to be the NT's best friend.



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26 Dec 2011, 5:26 am

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26 Dec 2011, 7:36 am

"I bet if we shaved your p****, and then painted it purple, it would glare at me in exactly the same way"


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26 Dec 2011, 7:40 am

syzygyish wrote:
"I bet if we shaved your p****, and then painted it purple, it would glare at me in exactly the same way"

I meant your Cat, for Gods sake! :roll:

Apparently Wrong Planet has a problem with Kittys! :?:


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26 Dec 2011, 2:09 pm

minervx wrote:
Basically, a general theme here is to avoid negativity. Try to spin what you have to say in a positive agreeable way.


Well being optimistic 24/7 is not such a great idea either......If I had to analize everything I say to make sure there is nothing at all negative about it I probably would never bother saying anything anymore.


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02 Jan 2012, 12:22 pm

If I am speaking with someone who is also AS, I will avoid using terms that could have multiple meanings because of the literalness behind living with AS.


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