Showing/responding to appreciation or thank you

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DarkOnister
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22 May 2008, 12:37 pm

Have you ever had trouble responding or showing thanks to somebody?

I find when somebody thanks me, I just blank out or stutter the word 'ok'
Its something that I've noticed more and more lately as its become a custom to hold the door for people so it doesn't swing fast back and into their face.

PilotPirx
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22 May 2008, 1:00 pm

"ok" is ok, but something like "no problem" is a good response. Or even a "liked to help", "enjoyed to be of service". My english isn't good enough to get those details right.

What I personaly hate is a situation where people compliment, for example on my work. Took me some time, that a simple "Thank you" is the common response.

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22 May 2008, 1:02 pm

We had a thread about this, and I found I'm not the only one who's embarrassed when people thank me. If it's something small like holding a door for somebody, a smile and a nod ought to be sufficient. Then there are the three possible replies: "No, thank you" (when two people have been of help to each other), "You're welcome" and "My pleasure". It can be difficult to decide when to use which reply.

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22 May 2008, 1:20 pm

"No problem" is my usual response.

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22 May 2008, 1:49 pm

When I was younger I used to say...

"Yes...thank me".

:lol:

Now my usual response is either "Your welcome" or "Not a problem".

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22 May 2008, 5:16 pm

I usually use:
"no problem,"
"yup"
"uh huh" (with a particular intonation which I don't know how to
express in text)

Now that I think about it, the intonation is always the biggest thing for all of those (but I've always had a hard time with prosody).

drybones
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22 May 2008, 6:05 pm

"no problem" or "ok" when responding

showing thanks to someone though i've always found difficult. my mind is spelling out the words to say yet i go mute or make some clumsy/inappropriate remark giving the impression i am rude and ungrateful

treeheart
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22 May 2008, 7:27 pm

i find it hard to say thanks,
it just doesn't feel right....it makes me feel uneasy....i am grateful though, it just that i don't say it.

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22 May 2008, 7:39 pm

treeheart wrote:

i find it hard to say thanks,
it just doesn't feel right....it makes me feel uneasy....i am grateful though, it just that i don't say it.

I feel so too, but I have made "thank you" an automatic response when someone compliments me or does something nice for me. It just comes out now. But when people say thank you to me I still have a hard time responding. I'm working on making "you're welcome" automatic too. I think it feels weird because I don't think to smile at the same time. I'm working on that too, but it is difficult to process it all at once.

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09 Nov 2010, 6:18 pm

It's confusing for me to say "thank you" or "I'm sorry" when there isn't an opening in conversation to do so.

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