Stimming after seeing friends

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If I run into friends in stores or they come over, after they are gone, i find i am stimming non stop for the rest of the day. I am not sure why. maybe stress of seeing them, or being excited to see them since i rarely see any of my friends cause they are busy with their own lives.

anyone else have this problem?

Often, when I talk to people I don't usually talk to and am enjoying it, I will start shaking right there. I think it's a mix of nervousness and excitement.

I DO THE SAME THING. It's very akward when I'm tempted to do it around them.

After 1 or 2 hours of being at a meeting or otherwise at attention I may stim in ways that may be hidden or obvious. Like at today's business meeting. It's sort of like a milder version of Dr. Strangelove's alien hand thing. I was really bad for this when I was in high school. My teachers would say "you're so perturbed" and mimic my movements to show me how absurd it is. Other students would ask me if I'd seen Dr. Strangelove, and it's only after I saw it that I understood the cultural reference.

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I've seen 'normal' people kind of like half-fall, half-bounce on the sofa or bed---and talk freely (or internal censor turned way down)---after a stressful social event is over, even if it's generally positive, even if it's generally stressful in a positive way.

Maybe you feel like you're stimming for too long, that the day is largely wasted? So, maybe stim for a while, go work out, stim for a while, do the first part of an errand you've been meaning to do, stim for a while, go to the bookstore, and so on, that kind of thing.

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I often start hand-flapping after talking to people, especially if the conversation went well. I think it's my way of dealing with leftover nervous energy.

Hmm, happens to me a lot but I seem to channel the urge to stim into pacing, walking and arranging things.

I stim in a different way: After I meet with friends, I practically rewind the meeting over and over in my head and repeat aloud all the things I said to them and I laugh out loud too. My husband and sons call me a freakin' nut but I can't help it. They cringe every time I run into someone I haven't seen for a long time.

I seem to get Tourette's temporarily: grunts, exclaimed words, banging my hand on the steering wheel on my car, grimaces, necks twitches, etc. It seems to happen after any social interaction, though moreso after bad, stressful, or really long-lasting ones.

I don't necessary "stim" when I am visiting with my friends and acquaintances. What I have noticed is that with a handful of people (mostly those that I have had an obsession with), is that I am real "flighty" when I talk to them. I am not aware of hand flaps, spinning, etc.

Another thing that I have noticed is that after I visit with someone that I have been obsesssed with, is that for a period of a few hours to a few days, I am in a state of mania about the visit with this person. It is all I can and want to think about, sometimes getting in the way of other life functions.

When it comes to stimming and friends, one thing that I sometimes do is stare at a photograph of that particular person while dancing to upbeat music (again, mostly people that I have been obsessed with). I have pictures of most of these people at different stages of our lives. I am deeply embarassed about this behavior, and I even try to hide it from my parents. But again, it does produce a good, almost mania feeling.

Does anyone ever feel these feelings of "mania" when interacting with a friend that you are or have been obsessed with, after interacting with them, or by looking at a photograph or other representation of them?

I have been thinking about my comment and often wonder the definition of "stimming". I often think of things such as flapping, spinning, and tics, but can things that people "normally" do also be a stim? I sometimes wonder if conversation and interaction is a stim for me?

i get kind of fidgety, when seated, my right knee usually bounces, i wring my hands, twiddle my thumbs and crack my neck...all together sporadically, but thankfully, it just makes me look fidgety so i don't get asked why i do what i do...it just seems to release all of the extra excitement i get from the conversation or being with them. In classes, I was the same, so my friend just thinks im a fidgety person and does not suspect anything otherwise. When i do crack my neck and move it around, it almost is like an uncontrollable urge to do so...almost like a tic.