how do you make friends?

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Im trying to make some friends at school so far hasn't worked

Maybe join a common interest group, then making "friends" should happen naturally.

Is there anyone who shares a common interest? Perhaps a favorite TV show? You might try talking to him or her about it.

First of all, you need only one friend to survive high school (at least that is what my mom claims and I found it true).

Second, paradoxically, the easiest to make friends with are those that don't have any themselves. Start with the most unpopular and then work your way up. If you are unsure, who they are, observe who is standing alone or is made fun of.

Third, your ideal might be someone to share your special interest with, but be aware that you are probably three times as interested in your special interest than any NT can possibly be. So, either you tone it down (can be very hard) or you need more people to spread it out (hard to find, too). It might be better for the beginning to keep to their interests. Research them on the internet or ask them questions.

Fourth, in the beginning, having to work to make a friend is probably not something you will enjoy, but it will pay out in the end.

Clubs are a good idea. Especially clubs that draw quirky people.

I'm not good at this kind of advice, though - I have very few friends.

Usually when starting at new places, I observe people for the first few days, to get a hint of their personalities, body language etc.

then, usually, things start going along by talking to them... work well in a group... chitchatting about everyday things (I know the chitchat part may be hard, but practice, practice, practise), nostagia, etc. When you get to know people better while doing small favors and the like, things usually just roll ahead by themselves...

u can try a school club or after school activity of some sort, but then again i'm a loner myself :'( so i'm not good at giving this type of advice

Any inanimate object will do

Best way is to find someone who shares your interest. Joining a club is the best way to get to talk to them.

You can also make friends outside of school. If you don't have any friends I mean. There's no shame in making friends with younger or older people too.

For me it's hard to make friends. I can't tell how it works but I have two friends from primary school. then the first year og high school I had no friends there, the second year we made groups of 4 in my class. I got in a good one with people with similary interest. I was in the same group for almost one semester. Now in third year we fight about who to sit next to. We all want to sit next to each other. But I don't know if I'll keep in touch with them next year.

One of them said to me: You are hard to get to know, I have to fight for it. But when I got to know you I think you are a good person.

I think I takes me more than 3 month to find someone to talk with and then it takes me half a year for me to become friends with them. I know when I have found a potential friend: either I argue with them like I have know them for years or I cry inside when we split. Either way I feel I can't let go of my friends. I call this friendly love.

It happend once a friend left me. We have known eachother for one year and I cried for days. So painful.