Friend's roommate complaining

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I have a friend with high-functioning Autism and he has several deficits including social areas and having issues with understanding what a boundary is. He has been living with a roommate for the past 4 and a half years. I have gotten to know his roommate through my friend and he does seem nice enough. At the same time, he tends to bash his roommates behind their backs, and my friend has been bashed the worst. He never seems to have anything nice to say about my friend other than he is a smart guy but that he is a "Screw up," "Whack Job," and that he's not capable of being human. I have often asked him to stop several times and he has told me that he can call him whatever he wants behind his back. He often acts as if he knows all about autism and talks about my friend as if he's this mentally ill criminal who is so clueless who could kill him by doing something impulsive by not paying attention. It's non-stop bashing and I don't know what to do or say. I have also said that if he didn't stop talking like that to me but not deal with my friend's issues that I didn't want to talk to him anymore.

What do I do?

Tell him you disagree with his views, and you don't want to hear it anymore. Usually people shut up when they realize the audience isn't listening. Don't rise to it. Maybe this flatmate has problems, I've never known a psychologically healthy person need to partake in such behaviour, maybe you can find out how to make this guy happier. Maybe he has low self esteem and likes to drag other people down. Remind your friend that he's not to take what this ignorant person says to heart, help him keep his self esteem up.

Metta to you all.

Thank you for the advice Moog but I don't think that I wanted to associate with him because his comments are so extremely foul. He goes around talking about everything that is wrong with other people and how they can all die and blah..blah...blah.