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wo0
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14 Jan 2011, 9:05 pm

Anybody else get super irritated by NTs imitating you?

Being AS I'm always content just doing things my way without really noticing or caring what other people are doing.

I often find that once I start doing something, NTs will start imitating it. I decide to learn the keyboard, NT does the same. I decide to learn guitar instead. NT does the same. I decide, oh to heck with it, I'll learn piano then. NT does the same. Or, I decide to play soccer, NT does the same. Or, I decide to like martial arts, NT does the same. Or I choose a career in research, NT does the same.

Is this normal? I find NTs copy me all the freaking time. I never copy anything from people and just do my own thing. So it doesn't feel reciprocal, more like people just copy. Is it an AS thing to not want to share and not be copied? It's really annoying! And eventually I just get irritated with my friends...



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14 Jan 2011, 9:22 pm

Yeah, I've gotten it before even by people I like. It's kind of annoying.



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14 Jan 2011, 9:26 pm

Take it as a form of flattery... a lot of NTs don't know what they want to do so when they see someone else 'into' something they want to see if it works for them.



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15 Jan 2011, 11:06 am

wo0 wrote:
Anybody else get super irritated by NTs imitating you?

Being AS I'm always content just doing things my way without really noticing or caring what other people are doing.

I often find that once I start doing something, NTs will start imitating it. I decide to learn the keyboard, NT does the same. I decide to learn guitar instead. NT does the same. I decide, oh to heck with it, I'll learn piano then. NT does the same. Or, I decide to play soccer, NT does the same. Or, I decide to like martial arts, NT does the same. Or I choose a career in research, NT does the same.

Is this normal? I find NTs copy me all the freaking time. I never copy anything from people and just do my own thing. So it doesn't feel reciprocal, more like people just copy. Is it an AS thing to not want to share and not be copied? It's really annoying! And eventually I just get irritated with my friends...


Are they doing this on purpose? Like mocking you?

If not, this is called mirroring (is that the correct word in english?). They do this without knowing. It makes thém feel at ease. It is part of they social behaviour, and you should actually take it as a compliment, even though it is annoying as hell. It means they try to be the same as you, as being the same feels safe to them. Even the career thing, I am afraid.



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20 Jan 2011, 5:57 pm

I found this happening with an ex~friend but it has more to do with her compulsion to be competitive and yet never have an original thought in her head~she would co~opt stuff all the time amd it was very annoying.



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07 Feb 2011, 10:32 pm

wo0 wrote:
Anybody else get super irritated by NTs imitating you?

Being AS I'm always content just doing things my way without really noticing or caring what other people are doing.

I often find that once I start doing something, NTs will start imitating it. I decide to learn the keyboard, NT does the same. I decide to learn guitar instead. NT does the same. I decide, oh to heck with it, I'll learn piano then. NT does the same. Or, I decide to play soccer, NT does the same. Or, I decide to like martial arts, NT does the same. Or I choose a career in research, NT does the same.

Is this normal? I find NTs copy me all the freaking time. I never copy anything from people and just do my own thing. So it doesn't feel reciprocal, more like people just copy. Is it an AS thing to not want to share and not be copied? It's really annoying! And eventually I just get irritated with my friends...


I sense a little envy or loneliness on the part of your NT friends? It doesn't sound like they're doing it to make fun of you. Reading your post, I think maybe one of them always wanted to learn the piano, but for one reason or another, didn't. So he was impressed that you were doing it and his interest was sparked again? Possible that a few of your friends who are NT might admire you a lot! :o



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07 Feb 2011, 10:49 pm

the problem is a lot of people can't think for themselves so they need others to tell them what to like and dislike. It is stupid, annoying, and yes amazing that people don't think for themselves.