People trying to "friend " me on social network

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I have a few people who I haven't seen since high school (and a couple since primary school) who have asked to be my friends on fb. The thing is I was not friends with them even at school - some I just didn't have a lot to do with, a couple I really disliked. I haven't added them, but some are friends of my friends, who didn't have a great relationship with them either.

Am I the only one who finds this weird?

I mean I have a few FB friends I don't see much in real life, but they are people I was friends with/ had mutual respect for in real life. What is the point in adding people you never were friends or even aquaintances with in the first place? Is it just to have a huge tally?

its to feel connected to everyone you once knew, still know, or once associated with. I'm the same way as those ppl, I have most of the ppl I went to school with on facebook even though I was never really friends with them. We knew who each other were and maybe talked a few times but we never hung out of did anything together, yet we are facebook friends. Its pretty much for the large tally as you said

If you don't wanna add them, don't add them. I personally find it weird that people who I rarely talk to add me, but unless they're someone I dislike, I'll accept them anyway because I still them every day.

here is the thing with facebook: it's not about ''friending'' people who are trully your friends, it's about having so many ''friends'' as possible so that people will think you're cool. That's why sometimes people you don't like or that even used to bully you try to add you on fb, to increase their ''friend''-count and show people how cool they are.

It would be weird if it were offline friendships.
It's not Facebook Weird.
Facebook Normality is different from how offline human relations work.

A lot of people add individuals they know casually as a way to find other people that they may have known in the past. It's annoying because I only add people with whom I have a solid relationship or whom I considered to be good friends in the past. I just hit ignore or deny on people I don't have any reason to add on a personal level and go on about my business.

I have people on my FB that I knew from junior high/middle school because I had algebra class with them but we weren't friends. I actually have a couple friends from elementary school, too. We moved around a lot when I was a kid so finding these people is kind of cool.

On the other hand, there are a couple people that I would never add in a million years. They were bullies and even though it's been 20 years and I have a full life, some wounds still have me convinced they're insurmountable b*****s that I'd never give the time of day.

So, it's about your comfort zone. Adding people whom you recognize is considered OK in FB etiquette but you should never add anyone that you don't want to have access to the information that you post Friends Only on your FB.

I am going to add my two cents about this. I do agree that people add people as "friends" on Facebook in order to build their numbers up. "Friend" on Facebook is a very loose term, it doesn't just have to be someone that you know IRL, it can be someone that you share an ideal with (such as politics), or someone that is associated with a person that you know (even though you have never met them). etc.

For example, I have added people as "friends" who are political activists, but I have never met them in person. We share the same thoughts on positions and agendas and will send each other articles, comments, etc. What got me to add these people at first was their association with others that I knew.

Along those lines, I have also added people as "friends" who are associated with people that I have been close to at a point in my life. This would include people such as spouses, siblings, friends, etc. For example, I recently added my middle school best friend's wife as a friend. I have never met her, but my friend and I were very close growing up, and she is a humongous part of who he is today. After he added me and things were going well with the relationship, I took it upon myself to add her.

These are a couple of reasons why people may add friends on Facebook, but not really know those people.

My page has been up six weeks I have 11 friends. Three are immediate family. One is best friend. Two are friends. Two are longtime acquaintances I am friendly with. One is best friend's older friend and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. One is a lady who's not my friend and I'm not hers, with we empathize with one another's situations and public perceptions about each other. The last one is the sister of someone I went to school with. I remember her being a sweet kid, so I added her when she asked.
I'm sitting on more than 20 Friend Requests: people who live in my town. I think most of them saw me in their "People You May Know" and just sent the requests. I'm sitting on more than 20 Friend Suggestions, all from one Friend's Friends List. Still can't believe she did that. She put in two people she knows I don't like.
I'm sitting on the Requests and won't approve most of them. I know them, but they're either not friends or they're just friend-ly. My page is just as weird as I am and I don't want the whole world to see everything. My FB page is high-security or whatever. Old schoolmates could find me on FB, but they only see the high-security version of my profile.
I am really uncomfortable with all the Friend requests and if I get too many I might shut the page down.
Best friend yaps through his Status like a little yappy dog (I love yappy dogs, they're so cute, but this is a person compulsively talking), mostly about politicis and pretty much starts arguments often, and this shows up as alerts on my page. So I have to wonder how crazy some of his Friends think he is, with the continual Con-vs-Lib arguments. Another Friend does all her socializing through her page, and she's on it all the time, talking through her Status, and this also shows up on my page.
Two friends are continually Poking me...so I am continually Poking her back!
I get annoyed when my nephew, niece and sister don't respond to my posts.