my only friend is changing quickly

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my only friend is changing quickly. i knew him from high school and then he was a down to earth, quiet guy like myself who seemed content with taking a routine route in life. well, recently he has picked up so many friends, goes to parties and strip clubs, has gfs and uses social networking websites. he also talks differently, like using swear words and making wise cracks. he is ok mentally btw. i guess im upset that he has become so social, hip. it makes me feel isolated and i would not like to continue our friendship. i feel this way about a lot of people since what my friend is doing other people are doing as well. is it ok to just not have a friend?

It can happen. Sometimes friendships end because people change so much, there is nothing wrong with it.

Well, I myself think it's ok to just not have a friend. When I say 'friend' I mean people who I can talk and trust, not the many people who I talk just for getting an information or any other purpose. I think you say 'friend' meaning the same thing than I mean. It's very good to have a friend, as we may know, but it happens that aspies experience some difficulties making friends, leaving it ok to not having a friend.

However, before thinking that your only friend isn't your friend anymore, make sure that he made new real friends, not the friends many people mean, just companies for parties. He might be temporarily trying a new world of clubs and parties and he may notice that this isn't a cool environment as it may seem. If he goes back to the down to earth person you described, he will probably find that you are a real friend of him.

It's sad to lose a friendship. Try not to do so.

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I would try to contact him and ask him why he is treating you the way he has and ask if you have done anything to offend him. However, if he doesn't respond back then you might want to do the friendless thing and also look for a support group for people on the spectrum. As for the other guy, he sounds like a looser anyway.