True Friends

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Its seems to be rather well known that true friends are rare and hard to come across. I was wondering from your perspectives, how would define a true friend? Do you feel like you guys have any? For me, I have a decent number of friends but I dont know if any of them are "true". Some of them, I know they arent, others of them, I havent known the long enough to know.

I guess I'd say a true friend is someone who legitimately likes you for who you are and supports you when things are difficult. I sort of decide whether someone is a real friend from two things: do they put up with me when I'm being irritating in some way (talking too much about an obsession, being moody etc) and do they actually come and sit down with you without you having to call out to them and when there are other friends around that they could sit with. I'd say that, based on that definition, I have 4 true friends and several others who could become true friends if I give it some time.

I'd say AstroGeek's definition and my own additional one.

A true friend is someone you can trust your secrets with, not just saying them, but knowing they would understand. They are people who would understand you, both good and bad, and stick around. They see the good in what you do. They understand your way of thinking.

The people I considered my true friends are:
1. Individuals I can be open with and not feel judgment.
2. Individuals in whom I have built trust.
3. Individuals who support my best and love me despite my worst.

After reading through you guys responces and looking online a bit, Ive compiled a definition and put my own spin a few points. And I gotta say, that finding a person like that is real difficult. And my stupid ass friend who thinks shes trying to be a true friend really isnt. And she prides herself upon trying to help me, so it makes herself feel better. Its like how doing volunteer work can make a person feel better.

1) I guess I'd say a true friend is someone who legitimately likes you for who you are
2) Supports you when things are difficult
3) Sees you and is wants to share their time with you.
4) A true friend is someone you can trust your secrets with, not just saying them and not judge you adversely with these secrets.
5) They see the good in you and believe in you no matter what
6) They see your way of thinking, they’ll understand you and not need an explanation, or realistically not a huge one.
7. Individuals who support my best and love me despite my worst
A person who will never leave you, no matter what
9) A true friend loves you for who you are not what you could be.