Can someone help analyze what is my issue?

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GAH It frustrates me to all hell when they state the bloody obvious to me. For example, when I was in 6th grade:

"John! Stop playing with the tape measure, It's not a toy!"
Another kid would then take the teacher's words and use it on me later, making sure to also insert the underlined portion in his/her sentence, when they also find me playing with the tape measure again later on.

Why the hell do they feel the need to say the underlined portion? Had they just told me to stop, I would've just stopped. But because they had to add that portion, I got mad and started a fight over this, and told the teacher that I am not stupid.

More sayings that somehow piss me off:

"Don't touch that, you're not old enough" (I am 21 now, but this was when I was helping my dad pack stuff up in a bag, when I was 14 and he had beer)...for some reason this one still pisses me off when I am in the presence of this being said to ANOTHER PERSON
"Don't try to drive the car, you don't have your license yet"
"Don't touch anything in the driver's seat of the bus, you're not the bus driver"
"I can do whatever I want because, It's MY computer"
"John, don't touch that, It's MINE not YOURS"

When people say sentences like that to me, I seem to have a complete meltdown and go crazy towards whoever that person may be. If they were just to use simple commands such as "Stop" or "Don't touch that, please" I would be ok, and just comply to their request. But because they feel the need to "clarify" things, I get MAD and ANGRY.

But yet when its something like this
"Don't cross the street, the light is red" or "Open the door, It's nice and cool outside" I am completely FINE with it, I don't throw a fit, and I am ok, I just comply.

So do I just hate specific sentences or something? I don't get it either, and I am the one who gets irritated! Do I just chalk it up as me having a huge amount of negativity to sentences with suffixes? Haha.

This is just a wild guess, but many of us get psychologically traumatized in childhood in a variety of ways.

Certain phrases could be triggers to flashbacks from your past.

Or, redundancy pisses you off because it reminds you that you're surrounded by stupid people for whom these phrases were designed in the first place. And there's no escape.

With time you can smooth out your reactions, heal some of the underlying causes. I used to get bent all outta shape when someone patted me on the shoulder, because it made me feel vulnerable and patronized, just like in school years. I had to find a way not to be a jerk when that happened, because my first reaction would be to alienate the person.

With time, I managed to let this go.

Not all things can be let go, but some are.

i wish i could help analyze for ya...though id probably need more info if i knew how lol. but as another aspie who is also pissed off with such clarifications, im thinking it has something to do with taking everything way too literally. or being frustrated that people dont seem to understand that i already know what it is they are trying to explain...it's like my damnn ego gets dented

I think it might be an Aspie/NT difference in this case-
what seems perfectly obvious to Aspies (the logic underlying why you should/shouldn't do something)
maybe NT's feel the need to say aloud, to reiterate their point.

I understand how you feel though- when my mother says certain things to me (KNOWING that it irritates the ever-loving sh*t out of me) it's very hard to take.