A friend turning on me

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I have worked in the same place for the last 7 years and I have worked with several employees. One of these employees is a woman my age who is 28 while I am 29 and we seemed to get along for two years. In the beginning, she took me out to dinner and paid for me, and even took me to a movie. I had also went out of my way to attend her wedding that she kept talking to me about and said that I would like to come. She agreed and gave me an invitation and asked me to do the guest book and hand out programs in her wedding. Meanwhile, we called each other sisters and maybe even close friends who could count on one another.

Yet, whenever I would ask her to do something with me, there always this desire to say "Yes," but never show up or even call me. Instead, she would give me a load of excuses that her husband had some emergency and that she had to go take care of him but left her phone at home. She even made a commitment to come to my housewarming party and help and never showed up but commented that she was so sad about her grandmother in the hospital that she and her husband went to take a ride first but kept on driving up to a casino two and a half hours away.

In the last few months, her behavior started altering towards me. For instance, she was set to take a Monday off after New Year's and I would work. However, I forgot to call Paratransit and since there was no transportation going up to work, she got stuck working. Because of that, I ended up getting accused of stealing her day from her and that I was being selfish. I tried to be civil with her and offer to switch days off with her the next time something like that happened. Yet, she tried to rationalize that she was having a bad day because of a nasty cold and then her father-in-law tried to take advantage of her.

Finally, she started acting really funny towards me by telling me one thing about someone else and then changing that story to someone else and then mentioning that what I said was a lie. Meanwhile, she told everyone except me that her sister is pregnant with her second child three weeks ago because she was telling them that I hated interracial relationships. (Her sister is Caucasian, her boyfriend is half African American and Caucasian). She insisted that no one tell me this information because of that so-called fact. Yet, she told me last Monday that her sister was pregnant with her little nephew and that I couldn't tell anyone and since I was a close friend, she said that I was the only one that she could trust. So I kept her promise and told no one. However, I had found out last Wednesday that she told everyone else all of the above except me. This co-worker also mentioned that I happened to listen on a phone conversation between she and her mother and then blurt it out in front of everyone when she was on break. She also went around telling people that I tell lies about other people all the time and twist things around that others said.

So, I took her off my list of friends on Facebook, and stopped talking to her, while she did with me. The last week, things are so bad that I cannot even ask her a question that is work related without getting aggressive body language that is non-verbal.

Does anyone else on the spectrum meet people like this and get treated this way? If so, please let me know how you handled someone like her.

People are weird. I think she was trying to get back at you for not covering when you said you would, my guess is that she was trying to get you to blow up so they'd fire you. Maybe she thought she was doing you all sorts of favors just by being friendly towards you, like it was her "good deed" or something and that she didn't get any reciprocity. My advice is to be yourself and do your job.

I didn't say anything and I tried not to, but the other co-worker whom she talked to mentioned that she was told first and then forced it out of me. She then told me about the situation and why she chose to bully me by omission when telling everyone but me and then mentioned that she seemed to cover up her own tracks.

This other co-worker mentioned that this peer went up to her after I left to head to school that I was listening in on her phone conversation and that I was not supposed to know what was going on.

some people aren't fit to spit on. EOD.

I should also note that while she seemed to spread this stuff about me, she acted like a friend to me directly in front of the other co-worker who has been telling me the twisted information. For instance, she has often complimented about how much I remember from her wedding day and how much I loved it. However, she then told her a different story that I was never really invited and that I had invited myself and told her that I just popped up and said that I was going to the wedding while she disapproved.


She supposedly had a sister-in-law who she and her husband are not talking to because she is drama and a trouble maker. However, when I was at the wedding, this in-law and I got along famously as I thought she was a really nice young lady. I even added her as a friend on Facebook as I had liked her so much. Unfortunately, this so-called "Friend," told me to unfriend her and remove any of her tags with her photos in them because she and her husband were disowning her and didn't want any of their friends talking to her. She also mentioned that she was going to removed her from FB but did not.

Now that I look at this from a three dimensional level does scenario number 2 sound fishy and isolating to you?