I think I'm picking bad friends

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I'm wondering if this is because of my sucky social skills or if this is common. I'd also like ideas on how to do better.

Throughout my life I've tried to pick nice friends. People with jobs and hobbies in common with me. Many, many times as I get close to them, I discover that my friend, who otherwise seems to be solid, has a "best friend" who is terrible.

Some examples: boyfriend rapes daughter, goes to jail for it, and when he gets out she moves him back in, repeatedly. Does drugs, beats kids. House so dirty you cant walk in it, house later condemned because of filth. Lies to friend's boss and gets her fired. Gets friend arrested. Scams disability. These are all different people too!

I am a very black & white thinker and that stuff is not OK with me. I just do not get it and I'm tired of losing friends. What am I doing wrong that I run into this so often? And what is wrong with the people who stay close to people like that?

I think it's more than just bad luck. Depending on what hobbies you look for in common, you might be attracting a certain kind of person.

Probably it has something to do with aspies having less social skills, so you meet people with less social skills. Unfortunately that can also be the more criminal kind.

I had that problem, fortunately I met some friends with stable jobs etc and those people tend to get together when they get older.

Yeah I have always picked the worst friends too, they either act really clingy with me or treat me like dirt.