Ever feel like you are speaking different language with NT's

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I do sometimes.

It's like I say something, and it is taken in a different way. Some times people will think I literally say something else.

I think some NT's process words and sentences differently than some AS people and vice versa. We could be saying things to each other but at the same time, we are not thinking the same thing that was said to one another.

Does anyone else feel like this?

Every day of my life!

Not all day every day, but at least once a day.

Yes and no because each person is different. If I keep having misunderstandings with someone, then I feel we both speak two different languages. I do not feel that way with my husband nor family. I do not feel that way when I talk to people online.

My husband and I have misunderstandings but it gets fixed and I don't feel we both spoke a different language. But at babycenter I always feel that way but maybe those women are just stupid. I swear they just want an argument and are just picking a fight and I do not see how they could have misunderstood the OP. So I say they're stupid and I don't feel we both speak two different languages.

This always happens to me. I usually lose any control of myself if I plunge in a conversation with somebody NT or not NT:. Some short exchanges are structurally short lived (like with a shopkeeper, or if you ask an information to a passerby in the street). But if the conversation has some consistence and durance I lose completely control and I need often a long time to reconstruct the bubble in which I live (in which I only may live).

Yes, this happens a lot with myself and NTs. What I believe is going on, is that the language of most NTs is structured around social mores, and therefore can be misinterpreted. For instance, I was at a function once. There was a break, and I went outside. I was admiring some fireflies and a guy came over to see what I was looking at. I commented on the way the fireflies lit up and he responded in a way that I suspected was flirtatious; meaning he was explaining the mating ritual of fireflies but really trying to find out if I was single. I found this intensely annoying, since I hadn't attended the function to be picked up, and I did not find him attractive either.

The difference between me and this guy, was that I had attended the function to hear a certain speaker, nothing more. He had attended the function hoping to find a girlfriend.

precisely.

I have met few NT's who have understood the way that I talk for the most part. I have also had trouble understanding some NT's, but it seems NT's are the ones who generally have problems understanding me. What happens usually is words, sentences get mixed up and mistaken for what they don't mean. Then confusion starts. Perhaps a class in NT socialization skills for people lacking them would help in lowering the rate it happens but I don't know if there is any reputable ones to go to or if such a thing even exists. Or just socializing with a lot of NT's, but I don't know.

Wouldn't it be nice if there were classes for NTs to learn Aspie socialization skills, too?

I thought about that while I was typing that message. I believe it would be a positive thing if the information given was correct. I do think that more AS would be interested in learning the NT way, than the other way around. Regardless, it would be nice to have more informed and educated NT's when it comes to interacting with AS people.

+1.