Why did people freak out?

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Hello, everyone. I'm kind of still confused about a certain incident that happened a couple of weeks ago. I basically kind of understand what happened and why they freaked out, but I would like more explanation on this matter if anyone would like to help out?

I am a bit overweight, and I don't really care about it all that much honestly since it doesn't affect my health and intimidates people enough to the point that they leave me alone. I guess people probably think that I do though because I refuse to wear certain clothes that normal teenagers wear (short-shorts, tank tops by themselves, etc.). One of my family members decided to ask me why I never wear "normal" clothes, and this is basically the conversation that followed.

They: "Gen, why don't you ever wear stuff that other people wear? You wear t-shirts and long blue jeans all the time, even in the summer!"

Me: "I know what doesn't look good on me." (I also wanted to say "they don't feel good on me", but I knew I wouldn't be able to say it correctly. Clothes have to be long enough to hit certain parts of my frame for me to feel really comfortable- like my elbow when it comes to shirts, etc.)

They: *insert freakout and people telling me that I can't possibly know that...too tiring to type up, honestly*

A couple of weeks later my friend (who was taking me out on a walk around the neighborhood) told me that the same relative had told him that I wanted to lose weight so that I would be able to wear "normal" clothes.

I guess they must have thought that I was depressed over my weight, but if anyone has anything else to add in, I'd appreciate it!

Seems to me that people can't understand the concept of being indifferent to your looks and or dress. I had a few friends keep commenting that I tend to "cover up my body" too much. Now I pretty much just wear whatever I feel like and snap at people when they say anything positive (compliments PISS ME OFF). When people make comments, I'd just inform them that you don't care about your weight and looks and that you would like them to mind their own business.

Most peoples lives are so completely governed by the need to "fit in" that they can't understand why anybody might choose to please themselves.

wow...tshirts and blue jeans aren't considered "normal" to wear even in the summer. what the f**k ever! now if you were wearing a heavy winter coat with the hood up and gloves on in 90 degree weather than i might ask that question. but it seems to me those people have too much time on their hands and are creating mountains out of mole hills. hopefully they are not really trying to pin you on wearing abercrombie, hollister, buckle, wet seal, aeropostale, old navy. etc. because in the real world, no one gives a f**k what you are wearing 99% of the time. dont let those conformists stress you out with their neurotic habit to conform to anything and everyone!

If you say that something doesn't look good on you, people automatically assume you mean because of your weight. You don't want to talk about your weight in public.

Heh, guess what I'm wearing right now?

It is fairly normal, if a bit lazy. I do wear long pants nearly all the time, but I usually spend the warmest months in thin nylon pants, which can zip-off, and some even have UPF. I camp a lot, including in the summer, and I prefer to keep my legs protected from brush, parasites, and possibly other things.

Despite what people think, you can uncover too much in warm weather. Weather can change, as can environmental factors. At camp I usually wear a Techwick undershirt, the aforementioned pants, wicking socks, and good boots. Usually, just a T-shirt and normal ball cap work, but I do have performance shirts and hats if I want them. I remember standing in a field for a regular ceremony when it started to rain. My undershirt kept me a bit warmer that some of the other people.

The point is that if you see a person wearing long sleeves and pants in the middle of summer, it could be normal for them, and for good reason.

my wardrobe: blue jeans and med-sleeve tees in different colours, completed by a few vests/hoodies in case it gets cold; i do have one or two pairs of shorts, but i only wear them if the weather gets extreme, yet even those are below knee-hight.

i do realise that such a thing isn't considered 'normal'; i also often get the "why the F*** do you wear jeans in this weather" (at like 30 celcius).

indeed, it seems like NTs care more about looks then about comfort, and the only excuse they accept for wearing comfortable clothes is "i'm too ugly for 'normal' ones"; i also had several (girls) who i just met at the new years drink of my work try to change me out of my jeans-and-hoodie gear, stating that i shouldn't be wearing that stuff...

Wow! I have to agree with the other folks here and say this is a total mountain-out-of-molehill scenario. My husband wears jeans and Tshirts year round (when he's not at work) because that is what is comfortable to him! And we live in Houston where it's very hot and humid 3-4 months out of the year.

That's ironic that they would think that you wanted to lose weight so you "could wear normal clothes". Some people just cannot understand what you say and apply their own interpretations to what they think you mean.

Perhaps another way to rephrase it is that "I feel most comfortable in these clothes and that is more important to me than how other people think they look"

But, holy cow "insert freakout"??? Man, those people are way too tied up in appearances. Wear what feels good. Do what feels good. And try not to laugh at them too much for being so shallow!