What makes you think I was into that/capable of doing that?

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Ok, since it has happened to me so often past the last twelve months, I gotta ask this:

For some reason, people approach me and ask me if I wanted to do stuff with them of which I am sure it is obvious that I am either not into them or capable of. It has been both been folks who know me quite well and "new people". Some of my friends asked me if I wanted to go bungee-jumping, parachuting or driving go-carts some day, and they all know that I am not into things that are too exciting, or that I've never learned to drive a car. Ok, that doesn't bother me too much, I just find it weird that my friends always ask me first to do these things before asking others.
What bugs me is that I have been asked four times by random women of my age I met at seminars, or on parties and such, who where into dancing (salsa, tango and such) if I wanted to go dancing with them. Like, seriously? What makes them think I wanted to do that? Don't get me wrong, I loved dancing when I was younger (and alot smaller), in fact, I was into break dancing quite a time. I also do not lack coordination, my overall appearance is just bulky and I don't move very gracefully overall, I mainly try to keep a straight back and overall upright posture, you could say that I am rather stiff. Why would anyone ask me out of all people to go dancing, let alone women I barely know?

Do things like that happen to some of you or am I just getting paranoid?

There is the possibility that the women wanted to get to know you better and decided to ask you to dancing with them for that reason.

maybe you're cute and you seem nice.
there's probably nothing more to it.
the only way for someone to find out you don't like to dance/ don't want to hang out with them is by asking. hopefully you give honest reply.

I just find the correlation strange that it was always women who where into dancing as a hobby. My problem with these things in general is I really don't know what to say if someone asks me if I wanted to do something and I find it absurd to be asked in the first place. I have a hard time saying "no", because I have the tendency to sound rude when I say no.

what is worse: having to hang out with someone and maybe go dancing, or the repercussions of feeling rude for saying no?

only you can decide.

Well I have heard so many guys here complain that they have terimal failure when it comes to women...consider yourself lucky that these girls take interest in you and dance alittle with them. You dont have to dance the whole night, just dance enough to keep the conversation going.

As far as the other stuff, just tell them you are well aware of the power of gravity.