Sorry if this question has been asked before, but I'm just curious... is it possible for people with ASP (I don't feel quite comfortable with the term 'aspies' yet, for some reason) to find love with other ASPs? What about with 'normal' people?
For the duration of my life (I'm now 23) I've had one girlfriend and one encounter that probably could have lead to sex (the reasons it didn't are numerous, but the main one was that my gut-feeling told me it would have been a one-night-stand, and I didn't feel comfortable with the idea), which doesn't exactly leave me very optimistic about my chances.
I'm currently not in a situation where I'm actively looking for love/a relationship, but I find myself often wondering if this is more of an excuse I've cooked up in my mind to have something to answer whenever the topic comes up, or an actual decision that I've made.
Somehow I've managed to live alone so far (technically I live with my family, but that'll most likely change this Autumn), but recently a lot of my former friends have started getting kids (and they've been working too, which is part of the reason I don't see them alot, I've chosen a more academic route), which has started making me... well, it hasn't made me feel better about myself.
I know a lot of relationships are started through friendships - that never seemed to be an option for me. I never had any girl friends (I think I had one or two when I was a kid), I was always the one girls came to for consolidation (so technically I might have had some girl friends without being fully aware of it).
There's this rumor that 'nice guys finish last' when it comes to girls. I'm sure some people have heard it. Somehow I never figured out how to be a 'bad boy', even though I might have tried sometimes. I guess it was never in my personality.
Ok, so that was a lot of rambling, but yeah.... can ASPs find love?
22 May 2011, 3:40 pm
