help me save my relationship

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Hi!

Im autistic and 28. I tend to miss alot of social cues. I am married to an awesome person with an awesome family. His parents understand my situation. My mother in law will even go so far as to help remind me to call people and also when with people to ask about things that I guess NTs would.

Recently I found out my sister in law (the wife of my husbands only brother) thinks I don't like her. My mother and father in law tried to explain that "I'm just not wired that way." She had called me and had a bad day. I guess I didn't respond as expected. Also she had ended up in the hospital and I think I did bad there to. See my sister in law is like what I dream I could be. She is so super social. She has an awesome job and everyone loves her. Beautiful daughter and home. At her job she is absolutely amazing. She is so fashionable and she taught me how to scrapbook. (I am so opposite this yet she is so sweet to me.)

For someone so smart I feel so dumb. I want to more help her understand me....I do wanna work on making this better. I don't want to loose this super sis I have. Please help me! Maybe something to have her read. Short story, examples, explanations...or something I can say. I'm so scared to screw this up!

Help please!

Tre

Send her an edible bouquet or something.

With a note about how "i hope you didnt take what i said the wrong way."

Not that im a great expert in this either, but its a suggestion.

I would just send a note saying that you are sorry if you came across as uncaring, but you are not sure how to react in certain situations. You don't have to discuss being an Aspie at first. Then you could just say some of what you said here, about her being everything you would like to be, and that you admire her greatly. That way if something else happens, she will remember that you admire her and are not likely being uncaring. Hope that helps!