Sometimes i really hate summer, feeling lonely

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bradt4evr
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06 Jun 2011, 4:13 pm

You know summers a great thing when it comes to not having to do schoolwork, but i always hate it because i get really lonely. I mean, there were so many people in school who i could talk to and i was starting to become friends with, but now that summers here im just trapped in a house for 3 months with nothing to do or talk to. See my moms an epileptic and my dad works for weeks at a time, so i have no transportation to go soemewhere and if i wanted to have a party here well, then you gotta buy refreshments and stuff which i cant do.Anyone else feel lonely when summer comes around, do you have any advice?



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06 Jun 2011, 4:39 pm

You mean you actually do have friends at school? Well, at least you have people you can talk to for 9 months in a year.


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06 Jun 2011, 4:47 pm

SammichEater wrote:
You mean you actually do have friends at school? Well, at least you have people you can talk to for 9 months in a year.


You know i thought they were friends, but sometimes i wonder if they werent being nice to me just to get me to say stuff about me so they can make a joke out of it behind my back, because it seems like outside of school they could care less about me. but i guess thats just the life of an AS right? sorry i hate being a complainer and being all pity me over this, it really isnt like me.



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08 Jun 2011, 12:43 pm

Similar situation here. While I've started to have some friends (real friends, I would even say) AT school the last four years, I've almost no contact with them at evenings and weekends. I have become able to make friends it seems, but I still have big difficulties keeping friends and developing friendships futher. I have no contact almost with my few but good friends from high school which i finished last year, for instance. So I'm mostly alone all of summer.

But probably it could be much worse, becuz I do have a nice family to celebrate christmas with, go out hiking 2-3 weeks in summer etc with. So I guess I shouldn't complain far too loudly.



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08 Jun 2011, 3:56 pm

I know how you feel. I don't have too many friends either, so I usually get through the summer by spending an excessive amount of money on concerts and travelling.
This summer I need to save up for living expenses in the Autumn though, since I'm starting to study and moving out, so I plan to make at least the first part of the summer go by by cycling to the gym every day and excersizing for a couple of hours.
Then I also have plans to finish a book I'm working on.



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09 Jun 2011, 5:59 am

It can be fairly lonely, but I'm used to it, not having anyone to go out with for the past 4 years, and having social phobia and anxieties about being outdoors for two of those. However, things may be different this time around.


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09 Jun 2011, 10:09 am

hey man i feel you. At age 15, my summers were like what you describe. When you turn 16 you can get a job and save up for a car, then u can go anywhere you want! thats what i did.



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12 Jun 2011, 9:28 pm

Do you talk with your friends through MSN, texting or facebook? If not, they can serve as ways in which you can keep in touch during the summer. Ask them for their contact info.


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19 Jun 2011, 12:13 am

I feel like that too, especially starting this year. I started homeschooling, and I pretty much cut myself off from all the people I used to talk to. I certainly wasn't a social butterfly before, but I had around 8-10 people that were likely to approach me and say hey at some time during the school day. I am currently trying to restart my social life by talking to more people I used to be close(ish) to on Facebook, but it doesn't seem to be working much. I'm also very afraid of the thought of driving a car, so when the time comes for me to get a permit I have no idea what I'm going to do.


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27 Jun 2011, 10:26 pm

I complety get it! The few friends I sorta had wouldnt txt me. I always had to be the first to email and txt and call them. Every timr I tried to hang out with themthey never wanted to. So now I'm having a pretty friendless summer and I didn't do any thing but try and be a good friend to all of them.



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29 Jun 2011, 5:21 am

bradt4evr wrote:
SammichEater wrote:
You mean you actually do have friends at school? Well, at least you have people you can talk to for 9 months in a year.


You know i thought they were friends, but sometimes i wonder if they werent being nice to me just to get me to say stuff about me so they can make a joke out of it behind my back, because it seems like outside of school they could care less about me. but i guess thats just the life of an AS right? sorry i hate being a complainer and being all pity me over this, it really isnt like me.


Socialising is a two-way alley.

Ever think some people at home are thinking the exact same thing? If you're only just getting to know them, it's likely the NT's will not be inviting you out all over the place.

So how about ringing one or two of em and asking to do something? Try a couple of time's. If they reject you a few time's well, you'll know then where the friendship stands. But letting them know you're interested will encourage them to also make contact with you :).



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29 Jun 2011, 8:14 am

Me too! I am sooooo bored with summer. I should have gotten a job, oh well. :roll: College is soon. As for ways to pass time, that is why the internet is here. I know some other sites if you are lonely and want to make friends...but a warning, they are addicting.



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29 Jun 2011, 8:34 am

This makes no sense to me. Are you sure you people are aspies? I can't wait to be alone.

It's quiet, calm, I'm finally happy.



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29 Jun 2011, 4:41 pm

Wuffles wrote:
This makes no sense to me. Are you sure you people are aspies? I can't wait to be alone.

It's quiet, calm, I'm finally happy.


Just because sometimes we like social interaction doesn't mean we are aspies. Sometimes we like it, but we can't understand some of the crappy social cues and we suck at it.