How do you get someone to stop talking?

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How do you get someone to stop talking?

So far, my repertoire is:

1. (calmly) Sorry, I don't mean to be rude but I really don't feel like talking right now.
2. (high volume, wielding heavy metal object with dangerous sincerity) SHUT THE f**k UP...STOP f*****g TALKING!!

The former doesn't work because people ignore it. The latter doesn't work because they spend an hour lecturing me about anger management.

I would like to have some tips on this as well.

Usually people stop talking to me if I stop being responsive.

Maybe you can get them talking about things in a way that interests you. I am the king of redirecting conversations. This means they get to talk, and you have something interesting to listen to. win/win

I suppose the question is, why do you want them to stop talking, in what kind of situations?

No matter if you take the polite approach and say "I don't mean to be rude," people will still be offended if you ask them to stop talking cause they won't understand why you don't feel like it and they will take it personally. So I would add an explanation that makes it clear that they are perfectly lovely people and that their talking in itself is not annoying, like:

I feel sick/I have a headache/I'm dizzy, I'm really sorry but do you mind if I go somewhere by myself for a while. <-- this could be a concise term for overload if you don't feel like explaining overload

Or just: I'm having sensory overload, I don't mean to be rude and I'd love to talk to you later but I don't feel well so I have to be somewhere quiet. <-- this would work if they know about your ASD already

Or explain: people talking can really overwhelm me sometimes cause I'm autistic and I'm overwhelmed right now but I'd love to talk to you later, okay?

Or: believe me this has nothing to do with you but I can't talk right now, I hope you understand. [You'd probably have to explain later.]

These are all probably too polite for a quick exit.

I put these on:


It usually does the trick.

hard of hearing people do this too. they talk so that they can't worry about not hearing.

in any case, i don't want to talk, i like isolation, how do i tell them to stfu.

I get in trouble often because I bluntly say "I don't care" when someone tries to tell me something they think is fascinating.

I'd like to know how to do this too.... I try to look busy, stop responding often enough... look out the window or something...

I love talking but my friend who didn't used to plug in her ipod ear plugs and I used to stop lol

If I am not in the mood I just can't listen coz I spaceout and people get offended and stop talking...

So, expanding the list to:


1. (calmly) Sorry, I don't mean to be rude but I really don't feel like talking right now.
2. Put on headphones whilst eyeballing talker.
3. Engage in offensive and preferably smelly bodily practices.
4. (high volume, wielding heavy metal object with dangerous sincerity) SHUT THE f**k UP...STOP f***ing TALKING!!

I will try 2 and 3 and see how they go. Any other suggestions?

i have an overwhelming power to make everyone feel uneasy and instantly render them into an awkward silence. without even trying

Start talking yourself
Leave the situation
Randomly start singing (tell me how that goes, that would be funny ) and dancing
Start crying (if you can)
Be really annoying with the way you eat
Walk around a lot, and if they follow, tire them out,

Whip it out and start peeing on their shoe?

Just brainstorming.