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ocdgirl123
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25 Jun 2011, 7:16 pm

This will seem like a strange worry to some, but I only make friends with older people, and one of the reasons is because I think if I befriend teenagers, my parents won't approve. My parents aren't strict or say they wouldn't have a problem with me making friends my age, but then I worry about ending up in the "wrong crowd" and having friends that are into illegal activity like doing drugs or drinking alcohol (you need to be at least 19 to drink alcohol here, even with parental permission).



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26 Jun 2011, 6:43 pm

It's not a strange worry to have, especially if you're young and are worried about making the wrong decisions for yourself. I'm sure there are people your age who aren't into those things at all though. Look for what people you meet are into more than anything and what their idea of fun is...and don't be afraid to ask them this!


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26 Jun 2011, 10:15 pm

Most likely your parents will be happy if you are. For your age group there are issues, bad decisions etc. that parents do worry about and rightly so, But, if they call you a "good kid" they will just be happy you have fiends and are getting to live some of the life others take for granted.

When I was young I had friends who were either older or younger then me, at 16 my BFF was a 42 year old woman. To this day making friends is easier with older or younger people then those my own age.... the last man to ask me out, repetitively, had just turned 20, I was 31 at the time and politely said no. Still we remain friendly and enjoy sharing zombie related topics and I've even been a zombie model for his make-up/Fx portfolio : )

Still age matters less then finding a connection with some one that can stand the test of time. Considering one of the few traits most of us have here is social ineptitude I say take the friends that come regardless of age and talk it out with your parents to see how they feel. They may worry you're growing up to fast if all of your friends are older or missing out on "normal" things other kids your age are doing.