Relating to Other Aspies

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Does anyone have trouble relating to other Aspies?

I posted a blog about it.

Feel free to start a discussion on here or leave a comment on my blog.

http://dwarren57.wordpress.com/2011/07/ ... o-talk-to/

Yes, I do. When I was in grade 5, I attended a social skills class, there was only one other kid in the class, he was two years younger than I was is. His special interest was movies. I barely knew anything about the movies he was interested in. He was lower functioning than I was and most of his problems were social. My problems are more severe in other aspects of Asperger's. This boy declared that he would sit in his room and look through the phone book and call random people. He would say that they were their friend, even though he only talked to him once. (In fact, he said that he was really close and he was almost like family) The thought that he was always right. I couldn't relate to him at all. The social skill teacher wanted us to play together and didn't want to because he was extremely difficult.

In more of a fun social group, there was another aspie who was nice enough, but I couldn't relate to him very well. His special interest was world history and current events which is something I know really little about. He was quite a bit older than me, he was 14 and I was 10 or something like that. Most of the kids there were moderate-low functioning though.

There have been aspies that I have been able to relate to well though; another member of the fun social group and another girl that I met only once. Not to be sexist, but I find that female aspies are easier for me to relate to than male aspies, but that's just a generalization. I typically relate to girls better than boys anyway, though there are men I like a lot.

Yup.

Because I like social interaction, I just stink at it sometimes because I won't know that I took something too literally or I'll be too blunt or I'll say something stupid or I'll be awkward or I won't know the body language consequentially not knowing what people are truly saying.

Also, there are more boys than girls that have AS, and they talk about how there are no good women in the world and how we are all just mean people and that kinda sucks for the aspie girls who are nice.

Also, I don't have a lot of the same special interests. I like pretty normal activities like running, singing and drawing. The only one that I have been able to find a wide base of support for is vegetarianism, and even with that some people don't understand the things that go through my head when I think about food.

Finally, I am weirder than the average aspie. I have so many quirks and things that I like that are strange (though not in a creepy way) that I doubt that there would be any aspie that could totally relate to my weirdness.

Thanks for letting me get this load off my shoulders!
(Oh, and i'll post it to the blog so you can reply!)

I knew an aspie from physics class last year. I could understand him better than anyone else, but when I tried to befriend him, it was a total failure.

Yeah. Nice blog, by the way.

It's just kind of weird at first, because we all have a hard time interacting.
But when I get more comfortable, they're some of the best friends I ever had.

Yes! I often wonder if I truely have AS and don't just have some form of personailty disorder or something.