Anxious about tonight...

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SO as you know, my mom is having a fourth of July gathering with some of our neighbors. There are a lot of people going and I don't know if they know I have Asperger Syndrome... unless my mom has told them. I'm just nervous about it because crowds of people tend to make me nervous. I've never really liked enjoying social gatherings, even with my mom's friends. The idea of it makes me so nervous.

I know I could probably do it no problem but... I'm still nervous about the amount of people. It bothers me and I really want to communicate with them too but I know its going to become a big problem. They have a pool over there too so I guess that's a good thing. A pool is usually relaxing for me but I don't know how well I will do without being able to get online to see my friends and my boyfriend.

I will have my cellphone and if I do need to head home to get online, I guess it won't be a problem... I'm more worried about the social interaction tonight. My mom is MAKING me go so I have really no choice in the matter. She says she has some of her friends who want to meet me and I don't want to be rude... but its always hard.

I mean is it hard for you guys when people have friends that want to meet you? Maybe family having friends that want to meet you at a social gathering?

Why do you have to go? Maybe your Bf can go with you..

You gotta stand up for yourself. In the words of 60s rock band Blind Faith, "Do what you like."
If you wanna hang with friends, do that.
If you wanna chat with your bf, DO THAT.
Seriously, at your age your parents should respect that you have your own agenda.

As for me, I'm going to find a dark, high spot and try to photograph the fireworks with my K1000 on manual shutter control.

I know its scary but it is good manners to go, it will make your mum feel like you care about her life. When you get there, allow yourself to be introduced to everyone and be sure to smile - they won't care if you are quiet, as long as you 'seem like a nice girl.' Then scope out the house to see where there's a quiet corner to disappear to once introductions are over (if they offer to give you a house tour, thats a bonus) and take a book, nintendo ds, ipod or something so you can amuse yourself during downtime. If there is cake, speeches or toasts then try to reappear for those, and just hang around, looking interested until its over then you can slip away again. This way, you leave a pleasant impression without doing too many things you're uncomfortable with. Good luck!

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