Can aspies be TOO social?

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Is it normal for someone with asperger syndrome to actually be TOO social with people they talk to? I mean I'm not saying always talking to people like they have no problem... but trying to start conversations and realizing they are probably taking up that person's time or not knowing when to stop. I do that a lot when I'm on facebook with my friends. I also do it with my parents. I'm always the one doing all the talking with my dad when its just me and him in the car... like I just have this NEED to keep talking and getting my other friends to talk.

Is that normal for us? I know we have a tendency to not know when the person is getting bored or uninterested but... I just wonder about the whole, getting too social part. It really does make me wonder... I'm curious because as I said, I'm very prone to this and it just now made me realize it.

I don't really think anyone can be "too social" - it's only a problem when they or others believe that this socialising is opening them up to harm.

I don't think that there's such a thing as being too social.

The thing you are describing isn't being too social, it is being socially dim-witted.

That means that you can't find the social cues that people are giving off (like that they can't talk, or are being too clingy, etc) but they still what to be social.

I have that problem too. I can talk and talk and talk. It is just about trying to find out what those cues are.

Being overly social is different from being overly talkative.

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i did this too,but it is to others,not parents,i talk too much about myself,but others don't talk about themselves,and i keep talking because i didn't realize it,i think it is too naive.

so don't expose yourself too much,maybe you will regret.

That's incredibly common among aspergics, and it's personally my most severe AS effect. It's not being too social, it's being too long winded or one sided and (in a way) being unresponsive.

yeah I can be like that sometimes. I go back and forth between extremes of being very withdrawn and being too social and probably annoying people tho I stick to being withdrawn more often. I know an aspie who u can technically say is too social. He trys to talk to everyone but he says the same thing to everyone. The thing, some people respond, some people blow him off. Coming from the perspective of an aspie who gets withdrawn a lot, I give him a lot of credit.

I think it is how appropriate people act when being social more than the amount they socialize with others.

For me, I know my limits. I know that there is a very high chance of my body shutting down with my mind being active but my body just not being able to move. I know that the chance of this happening as soon as I can lay down increases when I go over my limit and am around people too much.

Yes! There's this teenage boy who wonders around the neighborhood and is always coming up to people and innating conversation. Aparently he has AS. He's always being made fun of by other kids for his "gay lisp" and taste in music. He's so friendly it's scary. He makes me doubt that I truely have AS.

Don't let him make you doubt you have AS. Since it is a spectrum disorder we won't be the same. Yet we will understand each other more than NTs understand us.