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I've heard on a Puerto Rican newspaper article that would help us orientate the children about stopping the domestic violence. Is roughly translated so I hope you understand. Ladies and feminist, ya'll might wanna see this.

"How to end the domestic violence:

1. Solvin' domestic chores is not divided by gender roles, but by age. - If you want you're sons or daughters to be mature and equally acceptible give them chores that transcend gender roles. Example: A woman doesn't neccesarily have to stay-at-home, nor cook, or clean, and a man doesn't neccesarily need to work outside the house, check the car, or take the trash only. Sometimes it can be the other way around.

2. Say no to phrases like 'How many girlfriends you've had?' or 'For whom is this weewee?'. - Without moral judgement, they ask this kinds of questions or make comments about their genitals, they can lead to promiscous people (the bad kind). The solution is for the parents to stop making comments about their genitals, especially to their son(s) and/or daughter(s).

3. If the girl wants to play a boy sport, and not play the jumping rope, LET HER PLAY! - Sports are for everyone. If the girl wants to play sports, why are the parents obligating her to dance ballet instead? Let Her Play. And what if you're daughter wants to play sports and you're son wants to dance? Think.

4. Girls are not delicate, nor the boys are strong fighters or brave. - Girls can be strong and boys can be (and should be) sensible. If boys can develop sensiblity, in the future they can manage their emotions and not eject their anger at their partner. And little girls shouldn't be considered 'short adults' that dress in big girl clothes and then act like an adult. Flirting is not a good example.

5. Who said women are the only ones to cook in certain activities? - In certain fund-raising activities, you should leave aside the streotypes that says that women are the one in charge of cooking, and men are the ones in charge of security and other tough jobs. There is a thing called TEAMWORK people!

6.You don't have to expect to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to talk about relationships. - Is never too early to learn about gender relationships and sexualities. Doesn't matter if its a boy or a girl, you or a proffesional should "talk" to them about what's right and what's wrong. Do not feed them lies though. Or show them some evidence. It needs to come out of your heart.

7. The need to build self-esteem. Girls are fine just the way they are. - To develop self-esteem they need to pass to a conscious process. You need to build them leadership, always respecting they're rithym and skills. Nobody is ugly. Everyone is beautiful inside and/or out.

8. Careful with the entertainment, because they can promote violence. - Any kind of entertainment that promotes offensive terms, like sexism, violence against women, and transforms a man into a 'beast'. The solution is for the parents to keep an eye on the entertainment and show them safe, educative, and fun.

9. Girls can play with boy toys and boys can play with girl toys. - Is time to kill the stereotypes and let the girls play boy toys (because they can develop that they can be tough and mature and brave) and the let boys play girl toys (because they can develop that they can be sensible and more careful [like taking care of a baby] ). The toys are also good examples to follow.

10. If the school you're in promotes male/female chauvinism, change to another school. - Even though the school is for education, the kids can peer-pressure someone into doing wrong sexist stuff. The social worker is suppose to provide them some chats about sexual equality and universal respect. And if the academic classes are not pending about these kind of talks, it might deform."

Give me your best opinions. Like I said, is roughly translated and in short form. The newspaper showed a large version, that I summarized the whole thing.

Anyone? I'm waiting.

I agree with all of those points and if more parents did things the ways that you describe, a lot more people would grow up to be happy.

That was pretty much how I was raised. I was a tomboy and was "one of the guys" untill I became a woman...then at school I was treated like I was nothing more than a p***y. You may be able to raise a girl to be gender neutral, but it will take more than that to fight the stereotypes of the social world.

However, I did get a snake for my sweet 16th birthday, much to my dad's protest. He wanted me to have a diamond ring....I wanted a ball python named MaryJane.
Mom got me the snake. I had her for several years until the maid's kids played with her and forgot to put the lid back on right and she got loose in the house. Living in Georgia, I did not worry about her getting too cold. I never did find her, but we didn't have a mouse problem for years afterwards.

I am trying to convince mom to let me have another snake. I dont like the big ones, but I do like ball pythons...they can get 5 feet long at the most and are usually very friendly and wont try to eat your dog...unless your dog is a tea cup chilualia puppy. But most dogs are too big as the biggest thing a ball python can eat is probably a robin.

sorry for the bunny trail onto anouther topic.

Good,good. Anyone else?

Seriously, anyone? You can't deny this.

I'm still waiting .