Is this a good idea?

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Although my taking of literal meanings and not 'getting' jokes and sarcasm are particularly strong areas in my AS, people will inevitably communicate with me in a way that makes responding the 'right' way a challenge.

As I experience significant struggles on a daily basis because of it, is it a good idea just to ask people to say what they mean when they talk to me, because I find it so difficult when they don't?

If that fails, is it a good idea to tell people that I'm struggling with their sense of humour and don't know how to respond? Like one might say when they don't understand a language well - not understanding non-literal meanings and banter is effectively the same thing after all.

Has anyone tried saying any such things before? I guess I'm just grasping at possibilities, because goodness knows I need to try something.

Sometimes I get frustrated and just admit that I'm not good at recognizing sarcasm and just ask the person to tell me what they mean, and they always look at me like I just pissed on their shoe or something.

I just look at them with a nervous look and say, "really??" They always say, "no I`m kidding!"

I think that's an excellent and very clear way to explain things to them. It will make communication with them easier as well, since you won't have to guess at things and put things a little at ease. I think it's important to be able to advocate for yourself about your specific difficulties and challenges, and if you have positive people around you, they will be understanding and supportive. Best of luck!