I am really lonely?

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I am 17 and male and I don't have a lot of friends. I wish I do but when I do get them I get nervous to hang out with them. I spend most of my time on the computer on internet forums or youtube and that is my only social time with other people. I do have a facebook and I tried chatting with a few people on there but I never get. Any responces back. None has ever invited me to certain places and I don't know what I did wrong. I am a nice and kind person but none ever socially interacts with me. I am always bored escaping to videogames and the internet and that is about it my day at school goes like this. Get up go to school be alone the whole day go to the public library stay on the computer wait till I am picked up and that is it. Nothing really exciting happens. I don't have anyone call or text me and none ever is really there for me when I have a problem I ask the internet about it and that is it. Most of my time I am in my room doing nothing. I wish that there was a better way I can not be so shy at making friends. I wonder what could I do about this? I don't know if it is just me that is always bored.

Tell you what, go ahead and add me on Facebook(same name), and I will respond to you. Ya dig?

Perhaps joining a school activity might work but if you don't want to do that, then you don't have to.

I can relate to a lot of what you said. But, the more I see of people, the more I hate them. The chances of me ever maintaining a friendship are pretty much zero.

But, hey, at least there's Bubble Buddy.

Hey dude,

I can understand where your coming from. In high school, I only hung out with my best friend and occasionally the people he hung out with. Being around people can be frustrating at times because everyone has some flaws which will annoy you. There are times when my best friend pisses me off like nothing else however, he is someone I have a lot in common with and most importantly someone who I can rely on for anything. My overall point is having a friend requires patience and effort on your part but its worth it.

Also, spending most of your time alone doesn't have to be a depressing experience. You should use that time to improve a hobby, read some good books, or get some work done. Being productive makes you feel much better than just hanging around. Hopefully this rambling isn't completely useless and helps you in some way. Good luck and keep your head up.

Hi there User1001,

I'm sorry to hear of your experiences.

A month ago, I left my job, because I got bullied, suffered from Anxiety and felt out of love with my job and unfortunately in the process, I lost a total of nine friends within a few weeks - five of them at my old job, and the remainder at various social-networking sites and at an other old job.

I say to myself, that I am glad to be my own best friend and that Confidence is more important than friendship. I only use this website, to exchange posts with fellow-aspergians and no long bother with neurotypicals anymore. And I certainly don't want anymore friends, because my identity is someone elses problem, as I have found out from past and recent experiences.

I have one close friend, and even that feels like too much to deal with sometimes.

I'm the same way when it comes to online. I'm better at talking to people and making friends over the internet than in person.

I'd love to chat with you sometime.
♦ I'm on formspring at: http://www.formspring.me/SakiHeart (Most of my questions are based on baby names just because I'm obsessed with them, but I'll talk about other things as well.)
♦ I'll instant message or email back and forth over yahoo: sakistory.dnangelgirl@yahoo.com (Just tell me who you are if you IM or email me )
♦ I'm not on YouTube very often anymore, but if you want it here's my channel: http://www.youtube.com/AstroGirl3000 (Just know it'll be a long while before I ever reply to you. My channel is all about cartoons and anime if that interests you.)

Forums like this are a good way to try to meet people. Also, if you can find a social group for high functioning disabilities to go to, or even to visit once in a blue moon, you will feel a bit of relief to know that such a thing exists. Also, attending conventions that meet your interests could help too. School functions, not so much if you do not get along with your general local community. School functions and community events for people like us tend to be better for networking opportunities, so I wouldn't avoid them like the plague at all, but I would go in with low expectations in terms of friendships. For people on the spectrum, good quality friendships generally develop slow, especially if a person is outside of the spectrum.