Hypocritical world

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I do apologize in advance if I spell things incorrectly because my spell checker is off.
I am pretty sure this topic has been discussed previously however I was unable to locate it.
I think someone on here has mentioned how most NTs tend to be hypocritical and how aspies are able to see the BS through them which is why some aspies are dispised (well one of the obivious reason) but there is a saying how everybody is the seeker of the truth. So if everyone was drawn to the truth, wouldn't people (in this case NTs) prefer to hear the truth instead of people kissing up to them to get something from them such as promotion or bonuses.
If the truth was pretty harsh, I am sure most people would prefer not to hear the truth of how they really are whether you are NT or people with ASD. But I would personally hate to hear sugar-coated lies because I would feel like I am being manipulated or being pursuded in some way.
But if I was one of those NTs who prefer to exist in the world where its filled with lies and bullshits, it must be quite tiring and I would honestly feel blinded. and I am not saying the truth needs to be told all the time because people tend to be quite harsh with their criticism when they speak of so called truth. but you would be curious to know what someone elses truly think of you as a human being with flaws and strengths like all we have instead of hearing all the sugar-coated lies that have been fed.
Like if I was a boss, I would have the choice to promote someone based on his ability to point out flaws of the system or promote someone who has a really good people skills and has been sucking up to me since the beginning. But wouldn't most NTs choose a person based on people's skills than his actual qualification and his ability suggest an alternative approach to adjust the system? Because NTs are more about their inner feelings and governed by them while it's been said Aspies are governed by things other than feelings.
what are some of your personal takes on this?

I can relate to just about everything you said, but remember, it's an NT world and always will be so you must adapt if you want to be successful and/or not bitter and miserable.

Yes, like many Aspies, I tend to "call it like I see it" - fortunately I was able to put this tendency to good use as a nationally-ranked Wall Street (stock) analyst. The capital markets are "rational" to the extent that you either make money or lose money, there's no "sugar-coating" it - this really levels the playing field for an Aspie.

While I was in industry, I used to jokingly call myself the "designated a-hole" at meetings which kind of made my bluntness feel less personal.

Unfortunately, what you say about NTs preferring good people skills over professional competence is 100% true. I finally realized that there was no way I was ever going to reach my full potential in that environment, this ultimately forced me into entrepreneurship which has actually allowed me circumvent this, at least income-wise. I really don't care about prestige/titles - I just want the money!

I hope this was the sort of feedback you were looking for, and welcome to WP!

Well, I'd rather hear the truth even if it is brutal sometimes, than sugar-coated BS or harsh lies. And welcome to WP

I will never understand the emphasis NTs put on social interaction. They overlook and even change their recollection of past events to suit their social reality. This seems counter-productive to me, but it works for them. It's very frustrating when you try to do your job well and conscientiously, but get overlooked and taken for granted.
Not much you can do about it though.

I just realised that you can't edit the post after certain time has passed let alone delete them.
Do you know how to go about deleting comment or replies?
I think the concept of not being able to delete certain comments kind of deter me from casually discussing things. What do you think of that particular feature?

I agree with the OP. This is something that I have difficulty explaining to everyone else. Not only does it seem impossible to teach people these basic simple behaviors, but they seem to try so hard to predict what they think I will say to be rational and objective and say it like they are sure of themselves. When I am yet again outraged by their behavior, they wonder why, after all, they did pretend perfectly that they were being objective and rational. They think that imitating me is the same as being objective, yet they just say their same hypocritical nonsense, just in a different tone of voice like they are being so serious. Then they go along with someone else like it meant absolutely nothing.

I have tried kissing up to people and imitating how they say opinions and playing along with their pedantic make-believe role playing situations and become their best friends and risen to ultimate power, and I felt horrible about it and eventually had to leave and never be around them again. I think I am destined to live alone for the rest of my life.