How do I prevent myself from making stuff up?

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In a conversation I don't really know what to say so sometimes I make stuff up (For example "Did you hear? Israel just acquired some nukes."), I know I shouldn't but it just happens because I don't know how else to make conversation... Is there a way to stop doing that? It's almost an impulse.

I tend to make things up in conversation, too. I hate conversations.

sorry I have no advice.

Just stop making things up, for the both of you. Or if you can't, stop talking to people. Especially since the second guy hates conversations.

Haha I do this when I am forced into small talk with people I don't know / will never see again.
Make up names, lifes, personality, events. Everything. It pretty much can suck if I ever run into them again...

Don't know how to stop it sorry...

I was thinking the same thing except I was thinking don't say anything at all if you don't know what to talk about.

But awkward silences are so... awkward.

I hate lying and being lied to so I hardly ever make up stuff. But sometimes I have to really force myself to look like I'm actually interested in whatever gibberish the other person is saying. And then I have to try and not go on for too long about important stuff that I'm interested in. But I like having one-on-one conversations with pleasant and familiar people, it's when there are at least two other people that I start getting uncomfortable because they mostly talk to each other as if I don't exist and don't seem to notice my growing boredom and anxiety...three really IS a crowd!
Anyway, isn't always making up stuff known as compulsive lying? Then I suggest seeking professional help! I'd rather not have a conversation at all than lie. In the past I've been accused of being deceptive when I was telling the absolute truth because I wouldn't make eye contact, and when I was younger, bullies would make up lies about me, saying I had AIDS or did drugs. So now I have a hard time trusting people. Especially shrinks, who seem to have lied to me about every medication they forced me to take.

Well this girl might be coming over in a few days and I have no idea what to talk about with her for the next 4 hours...

But lying's even more awkward. Just think: you might have to *keep track* of what you told various people, and/or hope the don't get together to compare notes some day

Sometimes I just reflexively lie for no reason.

"Hey, have you seen this movie?"

"Yeah." (lie)

"Is it any good?"

"........yeah."

My aspie mate lied to me all the time and I always believed him. Then when I found out he lied to me, I was upset and thought he took advantage of me and exploited my innocence but mom told me he he a chronic liar and does it to everyone so it had nothing to do with me.

I also think not all of them were real lies because they may have been told from his perspective and also he may have exaggerated and only told half the truth and then stretch it. Like he met a girl and he may have thought she was his girlfriend so he told me he had one and then he told me they had sex so that part may have been made up and it was a lie right there. I don't know anymore what was made up and what wasn't. I even asked his mother about his girlfriend and she said he doesn't have one and she never comes over. The aspie had told me she does come over and she is very shy and doesn't want to be there when I am there because she is shy of new people. I don't even know if she even existed. I didn't think of asking then. But there were never contradictions so he was a good liar then for me because I'm gullible while my mother knew he was a liar because she can see BS. Or perhaps she knew because she talks to his dad at work so she knew he was lying.

Ask THEM stuff.

I know I tend to worry, so I read a lot of articles...so then I can say that I read it online somewhere...as long as you have A source...the blame goes to them and not you.

Don't think of it as "making stuff up". Think of it as a "creative re-arrangement of reality"

Turn your tendency to augment reality into entertaining "what if" sessions. Write stories. Make films. Become a creationist. (okay... Maybe that last one goes beyond the pale...)

I love the truth, but sometimes I find the best way to discuss reality is to stretch it to the breaking point and see how other people react. Sometimes people can't see reality until it snaps back at them like a breaking rubber band.

Don't make stuff up with the idea that someone will actually believe you. Makes stuff up to see how long they will believe you. Of course you may get slugged a lot by doing this, but there is an entertainment value in that. Just be sure to pack bandages and aspirin.