Did I do something wrong?

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I haven't been dxed with aspergers yet, but I'm 99.9% sure I have it. I display pretty much all of the clinical symptoms of it. Anyway, I can be pretty straight forward about asking about my needs. I have to be prepared to go anywhere, this means knowing where I can and can't eat because I have food allergies. My cousin is having a birthday party for his kid and all I did was ask what was being served so I could plan if I needed to eat ahead of time in case nothing was safe for me. Apparently this is wrong? My mom said I shouldn't ask because then it makes them feel like they have to provide me with food, but I did say I'd eat ahead of time so it's not like I asked them to provide me with something. I just wanted to know if there's something for me to eat or not.

This also goes along with apparently not being able to talk about what I study in school because it's bragging if I say I study organic chemistry and it's embarrassing to NT's? I don't understand that either.

People are so exasperating! I wish my world was just animals. I understand them better.

Where I live, it is a very hip thing to accommodate people with special needs. You can only get special treatment if you ask for it. I think they are just not socially prepared to deal with someone with special needs like you have.

However, if you live in a more primitive society, you may be shunned for having special dietary requirements. Many primitive or poor societies believe you eat what is put in front of you, or you are being very rude. This is partly due to the fact that there is only enough to go around and no more. Keep looking out for yourself and don't listen to those naysayers. Everyone with special needs deserves special treatment.

Thanks! For the life of me, I couldn't figure out what I've done wrong. I know I'm a square peg trying to fit into a round hole and I know I'm socially deficient in a lot of ways, but for one night I'd just like to not look like an idiot expecting to eat and not being able to. It would be nice if people would accommodate me but I don't expect it.

I don't see anything wrong, but of course, I am a aspie too.

I ask about finances at time to gain information for when I have to do mine in the future, and I was yelled at for being "too nosy". Apparently it is not a good thing to talk about a womans period in public either... I can't comprehend why though... everyone knows they have one...

I just like gathering information, and I mean no harm in asking questions. But I am yelled at a lot for my curiosity. I looked through my step-brothers wallet a few months ago out of curiosity, I didn't know that its wrong to look through other peoples wallets. Like when I was yelled at by my grandma when I was little for looking through her purse.

I can go on and on.

I am treated like all this is "common sense". And that its a social taboo. but I can never understand why... NT's are just strange beings, I am ok if people look through my stuff... as long as they have my permission and I am there when they do so. and I agree with you. I understand animals more!

Maybe you should contribute a dish to the party made of food you know you can eat. Don't ask first or bring it up before hand though. Just show up with the food unexpectedly. Then if most other foods are suspect for allergies you can eat most of the food you brought.

Yes even I think the above sounds dumb. But it's the first thing that comes to mind. It's as if you need to covertly find a solution that doesn't "Impose" on people somehow.

Especially given your allergies, I don't see how you did anything wrong. It's not weird to make sure that people accommodate your food requirements.

So dumb.

What do you usually do at a pizza party? Or different pizzas with different toppings? Why? Because not everyone likes the same toppings or seasonings. That right there is accommodating people just for different tastes.

Actually in any situation I've ever been in where pizza is order usually a list of what people want or don't want.

Aside from all that the OP might want to bring their own food no matter what. Even if the allergy triggering topping is omitted from the order these workers probably still handle them as well as the pizzas. I don't know how sensitive your allergy is but small residual amounts of food might be transferred.

Would have been doing them a favor. From what I've heard Gluten is bad for all humans. Just that some have less resistance to it's effects.