What I have discovered that has proven to work.

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I don't get on this website too often. The reason why I don't is because I'm always out in the field. Human beings like to befriend people based on a little acronym which I call.....................C.E.I.

Commonality: Do you have something in common with this other person. For males living in North America this usually revolves around an activity such as video games, physical recreational activities, bottom line anything that you enjoy DOING and not experiencing such as eating twinkies or taking a nap.
Empathy: uuummmm have you been in someone elses shoes and what I mean by that is have your experiences in life been similar to someone elses?
Interests: ' I like to play baseball, do you like to play baseball?

I have somewhere around 222 friends on my facebook account. If I see them post something that I like or something that I can relate too then I psot a response. Alot of the time it gets pretty good reception when I do.

I have struggled to obtain success in the work world as well as the academia. I have found that there are people out there that are struggling just like me and have the same thoughts feelings and desires as me. Alot of the time when I say something that someone else is either thinking or feeling as well or has similar thoughs as myself they tend to like my status.

Funny thing though is that once you start to obtaine more success than the average individual the less you have in common with them which is a good thing.

While this is true much of the time, it many times is not the case.

Similar interests and commonalities are just an icebreaker. Maybe we are wearing the same shirt, or have the same birthday, or both love the same movie, or both love baseball, but those things I found only keep the conversation hot for a few minutes.

After that, I think its based on a more broader connection. Personality, humor, affability, life philosophy, etc.

I think that only works to a certain extent. For example, I have found people I have multiple things in common with, but I regard our relationships as more of acquaintanceships than actual friendships. They only want to hang out with me under certain circumstances with certain people and it would be difficult, if not somewhat undesirable for them to hang out with me one on one outside our common event/interest/place. I hang out with my dance friends in and around dance class, work friends at work, and so forth. I'm usually not invited outside of that and whenever I try to invite someone over to my place or to go out, there's always some excuse. The C stands for commonality as well as CONVENIENCE, at least for me.