Forums & social naivety

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Even for someone like me, and I'm as socially naive as they come, social naivety is a very easy thing to spot in web forums.

Have people on other forums taken notice of you because they thought you were socially naive based on your posting? It's something that seems to have shone brilliantly from me on almost every other web forum where I've been active. In the music of online posting, such posts have a distinctly noticeable off-key wavelength.

You post away on a forum, someone takes notice, and you are literally hounded by at least one particular user, because you are naive. Quicker than you know it, you cannot make a single post on the site without this particular person hounding you every time because they do not want people on the site who are naive, as it becomes deeply ingrained in them that it makes themselves and their body of posters look less hale and hearty. This person takes it on themselves to be your very own personal "monkey on your back" that you cannot shake off. At least this is what's happened with me, time and time again.

I'm glad of a forum like WrongPlanet, where I see certain users who are obviously naive, but I can relate to what they say very well.

ye shall have bullies always. they are the irreducible fly in our collective ointment, under heaven. they don't call this a hellworld for nothing.

This tends to happen to me more in chats than in forums, but I don't visit forums much. I'll get into a discussion with someone and be completely sincere, then they'll tell me they were kidding/messing around the whole time. I always miss it because I'm too naive to consider that someone might be screwing with me, even when it's happened before.

Yes people have thought I was naive and it would make me a target for bullying and ridicule.

But the good news is you can learn to hide it. For one I don't ask too many questions about things people say. That makes me look like an idiot. I do not point out often about what I don't understand when I read something. I started to ask my online friends questions online than on a forum.

Some people still think I am naive. I still get jumped on and attacked every now and then by users but I have no idea if it's because they could spot I was different or because they have issues of their own. It does become obvious they have issues of their own so they take it out on me and it's unlikely I am the cause. It happens with NTs too but I think us aspies just take it more personally. Probably because we know we have AS and social issues and we come off wrong so we always assume we are the problem and we did something wrong. And there are some aspies that always assume it's the other person with the problem, not them so they didn't do anything wrong.

Sometimes it's due to naivety, sometimes it's due to other people having the opposite value system, and some people are professional offendees.

I dont think thats ever happen to me before. But if it ever does, u gotta remember this is online. People are vicious, don't take it personally. I've only been bullied once online and it did suck but it was on fb so I just blocked the person. I don't think forums have personal blocking things but for sites where you can block, do it. Try not to leave yourself susceptible to bullying.

Well on another forum I regularly use you're able to hide a user's posts, and as a member of that site has hounded me on an ongoing basis I got to a stage where I needed to do that as their posts had become too much of a distraction. He's from Germany, and I swear that Germany is the nationality most likely to engage in cyberbullying.