I just recently got back in contact with a friend from high school. When I met him, he was eighteen while I was thirteen (he was a senior). I used to have a crush on his girlfriend and she would let me touch her breasts (through clothes) but she wouldn't let me have sex with her. He was really, really nice, and he seems to have Aspie tendencies. Well, we decided to meet each other tomorrow and have dinner somewhere...but how do I know if he's trying to date me or he's trying to be my friend or he's going to hurt me? Here is the conversation we had, slightly paraphrased to protect our privacy:
Him: Hi hope ur doin well. Idk what to do in this town. What ideas do u have for tomorrow?
Me: I don't know what we can do...if you want, you can just come to my house and we can try to have fun there and maybe watch movies...I'm kind of a boring person, though. Or maybe we could just go to a restaurant and have dinner and talk or something. Or we can do homework together at my house, but you might think that's boring. What do you like to do?
(Later): We can go downtown! Would that be fun?
Him: Doesn't really matter to me. We could walk around somewhere. Have dinner. And maybe a movie. I'm a boring person too. When I'm Not at home, or at school or work, i play music
Me: Yeah walking would be fun. I like to walk, and I'm good at it. I think dinner would be good, too. If we do that, then you might be able to get me straight from the store near the school. Where is good? Also, if we get done early enough, maybe we could have a movie, but I'm not sure since I have to get home early enough.
Him: i get out of school at 4. so i can pick u up anywhere really. from where u live, can u get to the store around 420? i dont want u to have to walk all the way there. and what time do u have to be home do u think?
At that point, I called him, and we worked out the details. We also talked about some traumatic things that happened to us in the past, and about how he's in contact with some of our friends from high school and how they were suprised that I contacted him and that they miss me (that's what he says, though I'm not sure!) One of the traumatic things that happened was a dangerously controlling boyfriend I had, and he talked about how he would never do those things and how it was really bad of my boyfriend to do those things. Then:
Him: Really looking forward for tom
Me: Yay! Me too
So what does this mean? Should I be worried that he might do something to hurt me? (I got worried because I'm younger and someone at my college said that I should call someone if I was being pushed into doing anything I didn't want to do, but that might be because of my past and not because of my future.) What is this?
Last edited by diniesaur on 05 Oct 2011, 8:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.
05 Oct 2011, 6:35 pm
