social skills and how to react in certain situations

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Hi guys( Im new on here)
hoping you can help me with my dilemma
along with Aspergers im cripplingly shy, meaning that i find it very hard to enter conversations firstly cos i simply dont know what to say and secondly my shyness prevents me when i do think of something because i start to doubt myself on its appropriateness.i am then labelled as the quiet one making it even harder for me to say anything the next time.
i think what i need is examples of what to say so i then at least have something to work on.
I therefore thought it would be a good idea if some of you guys could me advice on examples of what to say in certain situations, and also other posters could post in queries of their situations and then we can all learn off each other!

for example,yesterday i went to volunteer for an office role for a charity organisation,which consisted of the lady went through everything i had to do, and then later asked me to repeat it. I thought I understood everything fine so simply answered yes when she asked me questions of whether i got it, but when asked to do the recall mixed up the order of things and probably looked abit nervous,although once she went through it again saw where i went wrong. however feedback then was that i didnt have enough confidence for the role even though i did go in with more confidence than i normally have-i just didnt know what else tosay they said i could do other volunteering tho). i think most people go through thought processes with things like that but it isnt something which comes natural to me.

another example, went to a festival few weeks ago with completely new people other than my one friend. everyone knew each other, and i literally sat the whole weekend with them pretty much not saying anything, finding it hard to enter any conversation. again i just didnt know what to say other than...i enjoyed that band, as they were all talking very fast and it was hard to make a gap in the convo.

so those are my two rubbish examples, but can anyone give me examples of the kind of generic things they would say in those situations-it might give me a few more ideas for the future.

Honestly, I have the same problem. I don't know what to say, I hope someone else here could post and give some advice. I think it depends on how much of a presence you have.