Are you so confident that it freaks people out?

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10 Oct 2011, 11:17 am

I'm in a weird position, sometimes I am very confident and will do crazy stuff and sometimes I am awfully shy. I don't know how to reach a middle point. I can be very random also.

I'm not scared of making a fool of myself in front of 1000 people but I'm too big a p*ssy to talk to a gorgeous girl in the presence of her friends.

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10 Oct 2011, 11:46 am

I get very anxious one on one, especially with a woman I'm attracted to. However I can speak in front of large groups, like giving a eulogy or the best man's toast at a wedding. I still get anxious but it's not crippling, I can give an excellent speech.. From what I understand a large percentage of neurotypicals can't do public speaking at all.

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10 Oct 2011, 11:56 am

I'm so unconfident it freaks people out. You would be terrified and shocked if you saw me.

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10 Oct 2011, 12:39 pm

Oh, that my son would be so confident as to freak people out ...

I wish for such confidence for him!! !

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10 Oct 2011, 1:30 pm

I used to be like that. I'd make a fool out of myself and do stupid s**t to get attention, but I'd get so nervous around girls. Now I'm just super confident around girls. I talk to girls every chance I get, and I know how to get them to respond. If I see a couple cute girls that I know at my school, I'm not afraid to smile and give them a confident "Whats up ladies". I'm not afraid to go on a whim and tell a girl that she looks nice. And plus, I just talk to them. About anything. About how much I hate a certain class, or some band that we both like, or SOMETHING that we can both relate to.

Just be the cool guy. Be Fonzie. Be Wooderson from Dazed & Confused.

And be clever and funny. Make girls laugh. You got a girl laughing, you got a girl lovin. Spice up the conversation with a witty anectdote.

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10 Oct 2011, 2:32 pm

MetalAspie wrote:

And be clever and funny. Make girls laugh. You got a girl laughing, you got a girl lovin. Spice up the conversation with a witty anectdote.

Good for you that you can do that. In my experience, I've never fancied a guy who made me laugh. But, that's just me..

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10 Oct 2011, 2:33 pm

Are you sure you're not getting confidence confused with intensity?

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10 Oct 2011, 3:28 pm

MetalAspie wrote:

I used to be like that. I'd make a fool out of myself and do stupid sh** to get attention, but I'd get so nervous around girls. Now I'm just super confident around girls. I talk to girls every chance I get, and I know how to get them to respond. If I see a couple cute girls that I know at my school, I'm not afraid to smile and give them a confident "Whats up ladies". I'm not afraid to go on a whim and tell a girl that she looks nice. And plus, I just talk to them. About anything. About how much I hate a certain class, or some band that we both like, or SOMETHING that we can both relate to.

Just be the cool guy. Be Fonzie. Be Wooderson from Dazed & Confused.

And be clever and funny. Make girls laugh. You got a girl laughing, you got a girl lovin. Spice up the conversation with a witty anectdote.

And you get laid with that? I should try.

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10 Oct 2011, 9:47 pm

OldFashioned wrote:

MetalAspie wrote:

And be clever and funny. Make girls laugh. You got a girl laughing, you got a girl lovin.

And you get laid with that? I should try.

someone told me once: If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.

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10 Oct 2011, 10:53 pm

johansen wrote:

OldFashioned wrote:

MetalAspie wrote:

And be clever and funny. Make girls laugh. You got a girl laughing, you got a girl lovin.

And you get laid with that? I should try.

someone told me once: If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.

Yeh, right!!

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11 Oct 2011, 12:01 pm

OldFashioned wrote:

MetalAspie wrote:

And you get laid with that? I should try.

You should really refer to this thread I made. It will help you alot

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt176197.html

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14 Oct 2011, 5:00 pm

I am confident, but I don't know if it's my confidence that freaks people out or if it's something else.

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