"Oh, so we're friends now?"

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Have you ever had a big group of friends that only felt like acquaintances, and suddenly one member is always asking you if you're going to hang out or go to this concert? It's happened to me and I didn't realise I had made a friend. He's a nice guy. We haven't had many conversations.

I feel like I only have one friend and everyone else in the group I know through her.

I'm kind of trying to reassess my relationship to him. Friend...huh. I have another friend.

maybe hes noticed ur a bit of a loner, (im only guessing) and has decided to include u a bit more. I had this happen to me once.

Well it happens a lot with NTs even if your not friends and you should be careful to take this too literally. Sometimes when NTs are being friendly, they might suggests trying to get to know you and perhaps "become friends with you". But then you might not necessarily be friends yet. Especially when its a group thing. Its their way of trying to include you. So they might not actually consider you a friend, but either way if there trying to hangout with you, they're trying to include you. its a subtle gesture towards friendship. Or they might think of you as a friend. Sometimes when you get "in" with a group of NTs, they oppotunities to hangout and do things are so much greater cause NTs like to hangout in packs.

He's trying to make friends with you. He wants to get to know you better so you two can maybe become friends, but in order to do that, you two have to spend time together.

i can neever survive in groups

I'm getting two different interpretations here. I'm usually extroverted and impulsive except when overloaded at concerts.

He and his friend aren't very extroverted. they're social but even when they're drinking they're not particularly loud. They have a nice laid back nature.

At one point I thought he fancied me so I stayed away but then I always think that and he has a girlfriend and I'm not interested either way.

Eh, I think for now I'll stick with one my friend as a friend. Man this is confusing.

Don't friendships evolve in the beginning? Doesn't it take a while for someone to figure out that they are friends. What I am trying to say is that it is not like there is a formal announcement, so why would it be a surprise when you just happen to have a friend.