I feel really lonely???

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I hang out with a group of friends now, but they dont talk to me as much anymore, because....let's just say a lot of the lads played jokes on me last year, and becasue I am an Aspie, I didn't get them and acted out in really weird ways that made them dislike me altogether and not talk to me. One of them even blocked me on facebook.

So they are really on the guys side now, so I feel even more lonely then ever, particualry when I overhear "friends" slagging me off saying that i dont chat much, But sure when I ask them about stuff and try to have a conversation, they could not be interested! It's so frustrating! >:(

I want to join groups and stuff outside of school, but there is actually NOTHING going on anywhere! I live in the countryside and anyting worth joining takes ages to get to!

Wat should I do? There is no point asking my mother because anything new I suggest to her, she jsut becomes so pessimestic, and always twists around her opinion to try and put me off for some reason, and she is the one who is always telling me i should get out more! ARGHHH! Its so annoying!

Please help me! How do u find and make close friends? I am 18 now, and I just get so jealous of all these people in tight groups together, having fun. I want that, that normal satisfaction knowing that i have good friends.

You've gotta really push yourself to 'fit in' do your best, and remember there will be people out there (somewhere) who will like you for who you are, but if you don't push for it you will never get what you desire, trust me mate I was in your position with nobody really, I didn't mind being a loner but I always craved friendships deep down, fed up I pushed and I found people.. I've also got a very good friend who understands me who is an NT but I've also lost friendships because of being an aspie that's a bit part of life though. People come and people go.

You might want to try looking for a support group for people with Asperger's syndrome around your area. Have you thought about that? I think it might help to find someone who can really relate to you. However, I remember feeling like you did when I was your age and struggling with trying to fit it. I had people pretend to be my friends but never invited me to things and yet rubbed what they did in my face by boasting about going to do this or that with everyone else but me. You might also look at joining some extra curricular clubs outside of school where you could try and meet others.

However, high school is nothing compared to college and getting out there on your own to meet people. I've been out for 12 years and couldn't be happier. So you hang in there and wait until your twenties hit because things will start to click.

I can't believe you just said that. I have been having some real issues with "my best friend". He is always going out to do things with other people all the time and never invites me. I wouldn't care so much, but lately we could be hanging out and out of nowhere he'll be on the phone with someone else making plans and then he makes up some lousy excuse to drop me off. It pisses me off so much! I try so hard to fit in and he just ends up ditching me. OH and to add to it he has the nerve to call me his "brother".

So I know exactly how you feel. I actually live in the country too. All this town has is a couple bars & churches. I would try and make an effort to reunite with your old friends. I have been meaning to do it my self because I went through a phase where I just stopped doing anything with anyone and ignored all my friends. So I have alot of fear about what they think of me now.