Would you make the effort with friends????

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..or would you not because you are too scared too, or you just did't know what to do, or becasue you know that there is no point since you friends think u are odd anyway?

And also have you looked back on her life, and wish you had the courage too, because it's only really now that people have made their friendships, while u are still out in the cold, the only differene is that they are not interested anymore?

Just curious.

The few friends I have today are reasonably comfortable with who I am, and I'm reasonably comfortable with who they are.

As for looking back... I mostly just have regrets about people who never got a break from anyone, folks for whom I could have at least walked up and said "hi" but instead I said nothing and kept going wherever I was going.

Hi LittleSwallow,

I remember reading about you having trouble with your friends before. If they really are leaving you out in the cold and won't even make an effort to be there for you when you need them, they may not be what you need in your life. The biggest factor to be happy in any situation (friendship, romance, working, school, family, etc.) is compassion. That is the key trait any friend of yours should have. If they're compassionate, they will try to be there for you even if they don't fully understand what you're feeling.

Now I don't know you're situation, but there have been times where I felt like someone wasn't there for me because of how busy their schedule was, but they really did care and wanted to talk to me about it. You should discuss this with your friend. Find out when you both have some time, sit down with them, and tell them how you're feeling. If they respond negatively, you may want to look for a new friend, which is harder than it sounds if they've been in your life for a while.

I hope you get through this

no. ever since i realised that a friend wasn't someone i could boss around and lecture too about my special intrests, i didn't want to make friends anymore. compromise is not part of my voculabary and when doing something with a potential friend, I always had to compromise. The only kids I actualy got along with were total pushovers. I don't need or want friends.

Yes, I would make the effort with friends because i am very lonely. My family has told me that my social skills have improved and I seem to be doing very well around them.
I know that if I meet the right people I could very possibly make friends. I know the when and when not to discuss my special interest.

I have had some friends who respected me, but I don't now and usually don't. I put in very little effort to make friends, and mostly it is because I don't want the kind of friendship that everyone else has. I only want to make meaningful connections. I feel like they can only be established when you are true to yourself and people accept you for who you are.

Sometimes I wish I did try harder, both to make friends and to find a boyfriend, because I do feel jealous when I see everyone so happy together. But I always think, if you follow those people around, their relationships really aren't that great. They are a lot of work for a little pleasure, their "friends" talk about them behind their backs, and they are constantly, constantly hiding and changing aspects of themselves just to keep other people liking them. I don't want to be a part of that.