Conversations?

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Hello everyone. The basis of all relationships is communication and without it... a solid relationship cannot be formed

For some reason I became SUPER (and I mean that) self conscious with strangers , I become extremely self concious about every little thing I do. I recently moved out by myself out of state and it has been horrible. New job, new people... ITs been hard. When Im at workI feel people think Im weird because I am by myself, dont talk to people unless they talk to me.

When there is a break, everyone is around talking and I wish I could do that too. But since Im so self conscious I cant because I think they might think Im stupid , or boring, or whatever. And now if I wanted to be funny or whatever I cant, because first impressions matter. And I already made my first impression.

I feel like an outcast. I cant make a connection with people. And if someone approaches me I get so anxious I just cant talk right. and then I become anxious because there is this awkward empty silence and I think "Wow he/she must think I am boring....I should say something...but whAT? WHAT?" and all these thoughts are going through my head... Then I see the person walk away and talk to someone else and actually hold a conversation... then I become MORe self conscious comparing myself to others... Is this common?

why cant I hold a conversation with a stranger? why am I sooo self conscious? is there a cure? This problem is really making me depressed... Well, hope to hear from any of you guys. Any help is appreciated

I see what your saying. Conversations are the foundation of human communication. They range from little blurbs of small talk to long conversations. I have problems with social interactions. I know how to hold a conversation but I dont know how to initiate, get into a conversation, social timing, etc

Yeah can totally relate. I'd like to talk to people and I even have stuff to say many of the time. I just dont know how to instigate the conversation, break into a conversation and say my piece, and when to say it.

When someone with expression and energy sometimes approaches me, its awkward cause I cant bounce off there expressiveness. Its like I dont want to disappoint them.